Zamkati
- Kukula kwa mikhalidwe yozunza muubwenzi wapabanja
- Kuzindikira machitidwe ozunza
- Ikafika nthawi yoti ndikwaniritse, nditha kuyimbira ndani?
Kuzunza ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri mderalo; pakhala kulimbikitsana m'zaka zaposachedwa kulimbikitsa kukambirana momasuka pazomwe zili ndi zomwe zingachitike pamoyo wamunthu. Ndizovuta kwambiri kotero kuti zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuzizindikira nthawi zina; limapereka mosiyana kwambiri pamikhalidwe iliyonse. Kufananitsa kuli ndi malire komanso kosadziwika chifukwa machitidwe ndi zochita zimatha kusiyanasiyana pakati paubwenzi wina ndi mzake. Komabe, ngakhale zizolowezi zomwe zimasiyanasiyana malinga ndi munthu, pali zina zomwe zimakhalapo zomwe zitha kuthandizira kuzindikira ndikumvetsetsa kuzunza komwe kumachitika maubwenzi.
Kukula kwa mikhalidwe yozunza muubwenzi wapabanja
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti atsikana azaka zapakati pa 16 ndi 24 amakumana ndi nkhanza zapamtima za anzawo. Izi sizitanthauza kuti amuna kapena akazi ena alibe chiopsezo, koma ziwawa m'mabanja nthawi zambiri zimayambira pakati pa zaka 12 ndi 18. Kukula kwachiwawa komanso kuzunza m'mabwenzi nthawi zambiri kumakhala kwakukulu pamene zizolowezi zoyipa zidayamba muunyamata.
Kuzindikira machitidwe ozunza
Anthu omwe adachitapo nkhanza m'mabwenzi awo apano kapena m'mbuyomu amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri kumvetsetsa momwe maubwenzi oyipa alili. Nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi zovuta zazifupi komanso / kapena zakanthawi yayitali za kuzunzidwa ndipo mwina amawazindikira ngati gawo la "moyo wabwinobwino." Nanga bwanji za ife omwe timayang'ana kunja? Kodi pali njira yophweka yowonera ubale wopanda vuto tikamawona umodzi? Chifukwa chamakhalidwe azinthu zosiyanasiyananso, palibe njira yabwino yochitira ngati zomwe mukuwona zitha kuzunzidwa kapena ayi. Zizindikiro zazikulu zowachenjeza, komabe, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kuzizindikira; ngati angapo mwa iwo alipo, kungakhale lingaliro labwino kuyang'anitsitsa ndikuwunika ngati izi zikuwonetsa chinthu chanthawi yayitali komanso chowopsa.
Zizindikiro zochenjeza zimatha kuphatikiza chilichonse kapena izi: kuwopa wokondedwa, kunamizira abale ndi abwenzi kubisa zoyipa kapena machitidwe awo, kusamala zomwe akunenedwa munthuyo kuti asamukwiyitse kunyozedwa kapena kunyozedwa ndi mnzake nthawi zonse ngakhale atachita zonse zotheka kuti amusangalatse, kuchititsidwa manyazi ndi iye pamaso pa abale ndi abwenzi, kusungidwa m'nyumba kapena kuletsedwa kupita kumalo kukakhala ndi abale / abwenzi, omwe amamuimba mlandu zachinyengo, ndi / kapena kugwiritsidwa ntchito poopseza kapena kunama kuti apange mantha.
Ikafika nthawi yoti ndikwaniritse, nditha kuyimbira ndani?
Chifukwa chake tinene kuti ndinu anzanu kapena abale anu omwe mumazindikira zisonyezo za nkhanza m'mabanja omwe wokondedwa wanu akuchita nawo. Kodi mumatani? Choyamba, musawope kulowererapo ndikuchita zomwe mwachibadwa mwanu. Akayankhidwa, wovutikayo sangavomereze kuti wachitidwayo. Kumbukirani, mwina sangakhale akudziwa kwenikweni. Khalani aulemu polankhula ndi munthuyo ndikumulimbikitsa. Ndikofunika kuti wozunzidwayo amve kuthandizidwa m'malo moimbidwa mlandu pazomwe mnzake wachita. Monga woyimirira ndikofunikanso kuti muzindikire zomwe zimaperekedwa mdera lanu. Ambiri adzakhala ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe zingapezeke kwa abambo, amayi, kapena ana omwe akumva kuti ali m'malo otetezeka ndipo akusowa thandizo kuti achoke. Kawirikawiri, mumakhala malo amodzi mderalo omwe amapereka malo achitetezo kwa omwe achitiridwa nkhanza m'banja. Malo ogonawa ndi amodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri popereka malumikizidwe kumagulu othandizira, othandizira milandu, ndi mapulogalamu othandizira anthu.Kumbukirani, monga tanena kale, wozunzidwa atha kukhala kuti wakhala nawo kwa nthawi yayitali osadziwa kuopsa ndi zoopsa zomwe zingachitike. Ngakhale ndikosavuta kuganiza zakumenyana, nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta kukhala ndi mwayi wolankhula momasuka ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Onetsetsani kuti mwakhazikitsa nkhawa zanu powona, mupatseni zomwe angachite, ndikubwereza kufunitsitsa kwanu kuwathandiza. Musaope kulumikizana ndi ogwira ntchito zadzidzidzi ngati ziwopsezo zankhanza kwambiri ndipo mukukhulupirira kuti wina ali pachiwopsezo nthawi yomweyo. Chitani zomwe mungathe ndi zomwe muli nazo.
Kaya ndinu amene mukuyang'ana kunja kapena wina akuzunzidwa, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri nthawi zambiri chimakhala munthu amene amangomvetsera. Zizindikiro zakuchenjezana m'mabanja zimawonetsa zizunzo zomwe zimaphwanya kukhulupirirana komwe munthuyo wapatsidwa ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kuti ambiri azikhulupiliranso wina. Komabe, kufunitsitsa kumvera osaweruza ndi njira imodzi yosavuta yothandizira munthu amene akuzunzidwa. Kukhazikitsa ubalewo ndikutsegulira ena thandizo kungakhale gawo loyamba lolola wovutitsidwayo kuchoka pamithunzi ya omwe amamuzunza.