Zamkati
- Injini "ine"
- Narcissism ndi liwu lina lolondola
- Kudzikonda kwambiri
- Osati zoipa zonse
- Pitirizani kulankhula, koma ine sindimvera
- Malamulo 100 anu ndi 1 anga
"Ine ndine dziko lapansi, ndipo dziko lapansi ndi Ine."
Kodi mzerewu umakukumbutsani za winawake makamaka, kapena mwakhala mukugwirizana kapena muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi chizolowezi chodzipangitsa kukhala chilichonse? Wina, yemwe sangatulutse zakuti 'iwo' ndianthu ofunikira kwambiri ndikuti popanda iwo, dziko lapansi silingakhaleko.
Munthu woteroyo, ndimomwe timamutcha, 'wankhanza.'
Mwina simukudziwa, kuti kukhala wamankhwala osokoneza bongo sichinthu chomwe chimangochitika, ndimavuto amunthu omwe amachokera pazifukwa zosadziwika, mosiyana ndi mawonekedwe ake omwe amadziwika bwino. Chifukwa chake, wamankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi ndani, ndi mikhalidwe iti yomwe ili yapadera kwa iwo ndipo ndi chiyani chomwe chimawapangitsa kusankha koyipa ngati anzawo komanso anzawo?
Tiyeni tikambirane pansipa:
Injini "ine"
Kodi mudamvapo sitima zapamtunda zopita ku 'choo-choo'? Inde, muyenera.
Zofanana ndi phokoso lobwerezabwereza lomwe injini zama sitima zimapanga, zomwe ma narcissist zimamveka ngati: 'Ine, Ine, Ine!
Izi zimachitika mozungulira kuti zikhumudwitse gehena; mwina simungamve kwenikweni akunena kuti 'ine' 24/7 koma ndizomwe amayamba kuyimira pazochitika zilizonse atakula.
Chilichonse chomwe amachita kapena kunena, kapena ngakhale amaganiza chimakhala ndi 'ine' mmenemo. Sikuti amangodzipatsa okha ulemu pazochitika zilizonse; zoyeserera zingapo zimapangidwa ndi iwo kuti adziwonetsere kukhala mfumu.
Amachita bwanji izi?
Amakupangitsani kukhala akapolo inu ndi ena onse omwe angawapeze, kusokoneza ndi chida chawo ndikukwaniritsa cholinga chawo, cholinga.
Narcissism ndi liwu lina lolondola
Muli nacho icho, sichoncho?
Wolemba zamatsenga ndi munthu yemwe sangalekerere kuuzidwa kuti akulakwitsa.
Chilichonse chomwe anganene, ndi chowonadi komanso chowonadi chenicheni. Ndizopanda pake kukangana nawo kapena kukhulupirira pang'ono kuti mutha kuwapangitsa kuzindikira kuti ali olakwitsa kanthu. Amaopa kudzudzulidwa ndipo sangathe kumvetsetsa ena.
Injini ya 'me' imangopitilira kukuuzani zakufunika kwawo komanso momwe sangalakwire kalikonse.
Kudzikonda kwambiri
Tonsefe timadziwa momwe kudzikonda ndikofunikira kuti munthu akhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso gawo lalikulu, limawathandiza kukhalabe olimba mtima komanso osasamala mainchesi kutali.
Koma, kodi nthawi zina zimatha kuchitidwa mpaka kufika pangozi? Yankho ndi inde.
Kuchuluka kwa kudzikonda kumakankhira munthu kutali kuti asamve chisoni kapena kumvera chimodzimodzi, kumamulepheretsa munthu kusiyanitsa choyenera ndi cholakwika ndikupangitsa kuti iye azigwiritsa ntchito anthu ena kuti adziyese okha.
Njira yachiwonongeko, komanso kusiyira kuzindikira kuti tsoka ndi lomwe likubweretsa chifukwa wamankhwala sakhala wolakwika.
Osati zoipa zonse
Chilichonse chomwe ochita narcissist amachita, mwina sangakhale onse oyipa kwenikweni.
Pofuna kuti anthu aziwakonda, amakonda kupereka mowolowa manja kuti apusitse ena kuganiza kuti ndiokoma kwambiri padziko lapansi. Chilichonse ndi chilichonse chomwe amachita ndi kulandira matamando.
Cholinga chawo sichilibe kanthu, ndipo atha kupita kutali kuti atsimikizire kuti ndiwokonda komanso wosamala kwambiri, omwe adakhalako. Zonsezi, kungomva kuti achokera kudziko lino.
Pitirizani kulankhula, koma ine sindimvera
A Narcissist ali okonzeka kukumverani, koma kuti mudzazindikira pambuyo pake kuti samamveradi ndipo m'malo mwake, amangonena zomwe zili mumutu mwawo kuti abwezere.
Kukudziwitsani, kuti ndizofunikira. Kuti malingaliro awo ndizofunikira zokha, kuti muyenera kuwamvera ngakhale sakumvera ndikuti muziwayamika ngakhale mutasiyana. Ngati mukusiyana, ndi inu omwe mukulakwitsa, ndipo adzakhala ndi ufulu wokwiya pambuyo pake.
Ndipo, ngati mkangano ubwera, ndi inu amene muli wolakwitsa osati iwo chifukwa chongoyerekeza? Sanalakwitse konse.
Malamulo 100 anu ndi 1 anga
Malamulo onse, amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa wina aliyense kupatula anthu omwe amakhala moyo wankhanza.
Wina aliyense akuyenera kutsatira malamulo mazana omwe amapanga; Kwa iwo eni, palibe lamulo logwira ntchito kupatula limodzi, ndipo ndikutsatira miyambo ya 'ine'. Chilichonse chokhudza inu sichichitapo kanthu kwa iwo, chifukwa chake, simungawafunse kapena kuwatsimikizira kuti akulakwitsa.
Simungathe kukangana kapena kunena mawu anu chifukwa zonse zimathera pakupanduka kwawo ndikuponya zoyenera.
Njira yosavuta yowazindikirira anthuwa ndikuwona kuti munthu amachita zinthu kangati ngati akufunsa mafunso awa: Kodi mungayese bwanji kukayikira zomwe ndikunenazi? Mungayerekeze bwanji osatsatira malamulo omwe ndakhazikitsa? Ungayerekeze bwanji, kukana kuti ine ndiye zomwe dziko likuzungulira?
Ngati mukumva ngati izi ndizomwe zimabwera m'maganizo mwanu mukakhala pafupi ndi munthu wina, mwakumana ndi wamisala.