Zamkati
- 1. Kuphunzira kupeza zabwino pazofooka za mnzanu
- 2. Kukhala ndi udindo woyankha zomwe mnzanu wachita
- 3. Onetsetsani zinthu ziwiri zabwino zomwe mnzanu anachita patsiku
- 4. Kuphunzira kuvomereza zophophonya zanu
- 5. Kuphunzira kukhala munthu wangwiro osati anthu angwiro
Sikuti nthawi zambiri lingaliro lomwe lili ndi mphamvu zothetsera maubwenzi limakhala ndi dzina losangalatsa kunena.
Wabi-sabi (wobby sobby) ndi mawu achijapani omwe ndi ovuta kunena osamwetulira omwe amafotokoza njira yayikulu yowonera ubale ndi wekha, anthu ena, komanso moyo wamba. Richard Powell wolemba wa Wabi Sabi Zambiri adalongosola kuti, "Kulandira dziko lapansi kukhala lopanda ungwiro, losamaliza, komanso lanthawi yochepa, ndikupita mozama ndikukondwerera izi.”
Cholowa chomwe chadutsa kuchokera ku mibadwomibadwo chimayamikiridwa, ngakhale zili ndi zizindikilo zakuwonetsera, koma chifukwa cha zikwangwani. Palibe amene ananenapo kuti Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, kapena Lead Belly ndioyimba mwanjira yofananira ndi mawuwo, koma ndioyimba bwino kwambiri pamalingaliro a wabi-sabi.
Nawa maubwenzi ofunika asanu kuchokera ku lingaliro la Wabi-sabi
1. Kuphunzira kupeza zabwino pazofooka za mnzanu
Kukhala wabi-sabi muubwenzi ndi wina ndikopitilira kulekerera zofooka za mnzanu, ndiko kupeza zabwino mwa omwe amati zolakwika.
Ndikupeza kuvomerezedwa osati ngakhale zili zolakwika, koma chifukwa cha iwo. Kukhala wabi-sabi mu chibwenzi ndikusiya kuyesayesa "kukonza" munthuyo, zomwe zimatsegula nthawi ndi mphamvu zambiri kuti tikhale limodzi ndi mikangano yocheperako.
Ubale umakonda kupitilira magawo. Choyamba nthawi zonse chimakhala chongotengeka kapena "kukondana." Munthu winayo ndi banja lomwe likulengedwa amawoneka ngati angwiro. Gawo lachiwiri ndi pamene m'modzi kapena mamembala ena a banjali azindikira kuti zinthu, kutanthauza kuti mnzakeyo, sizabwino kwenikweni. Pozindikira izi, anthu ena amatulutsa ubale kuti afunenso munthu wangwiroyo, mnzake wamoyo, yemwe angawakwaniritse. Koma mwamwayi, anthu ambiri amasankha kukhalabe muubwenzi wawo ndi kukonza zinthu.
Tsoka ilo, izi nthawi zambiri zimatanthauza kuyesa kusintha munthu winayo kuti akhale momwe iye akuyenera kukhalira. Mabanja ambiri amakhala moyo wawo wonse mukuyesetsa kuti asinthe winayo.
Anthu ena pamapeto pake amapeza kupusa koyesa “kukonza” munthu wina mu chibwenzi koma apitiliza kukwiya kuti wokondedwa wawo asasinthe. Mkwiyo umabwera chifukwa cha mikangano koma sichimathetsedwa. Komabe, ena amafika pofika pofika pomalekerera zofooka za wokondedwa wawo osakwiya.
2. Kukhala ndi udindo woyankha zomwe mnzanu wachita
Ndi maanja ochepa okha omwe amakwanitsa kufikira pomwe amayamba kuwona zomwe anzawo akuchita / malingaliro / momwe akumvera osati monga chiwonetsero cha kufunika kwawo, koma ngati mwayi wodziyimira pawokha. Mamembala a mabanja osowa ndi omwe amatenga nawo mbali; "Ndili ndi 100% paubwenzi wanga 50%." Malingaliro amenewo samatanthauza kuti 50% ndiye amene amakhala ndi udindo pazomwe mnzakeyo amachita, koma zikutanthauza kuti munthu ali ndi udindo wokhudzana ndi zomwe munthu wina angamuyankhe.
3. Onetsetsani zinthu ziwiri zabwino zomwe mnzanu anachita patsiku
Njira imodzi yolimbikitsira ubale wachimwemwe ndikusinthana usiku komwe munthu aliyense amatenga cholakwa ndikuwona zinthu ziwiri zabwino zomwe mnzake wachita tsikulo.
Mnzake 1- "Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndachita lero chomwe chichepetse chibwenzi chathu sichinali kukuyimbiraninso nthawi yomwe tidagwirizana kuti ndidzakuyimbireni. Ndikupepesa chifukwa cha izo. Chimodzi mwazomwe mwachita kuti muchepetse ubale wathu ndipamene munandiuza kuti mwakhumudwa komanso ndakwiya kuti sindinakubwezeleni simunakuwa, koma munangonena modekha. Chachiwiri chomwe mudachita chomwe chidalimbitsa ubale wathu lero ndikundithokoza chifukwa chotola kuyeretsa kouma. Ndimasangalala ndikaona kuti ndikamatsatira mapangano ndi kundithokoza. ”
4. Kuphunzira kuvomereza zophophonya zanu
Kuyang'ana pa zofooka za munthu mmalo moganizira za mnzakeyo ndikuwonanso zinthu zabwino zomwe mnzakeyo wasintha machitidwe ake kuchokera nthawi zambiri omwe amapezeka muubwenzi wosemphana kwambiri momwe munthu aliyense amakhala katswiri pazomwe adachita bwino komanso Katswiri wa zomwe mnzakeyo walakwitsa.
5. Kuphunzira kukhala munthu wangwiro osati anthu angwiro
Mwina ubale wovuta kwambiri kuchita nawo wabi-sabi ndiwanu. "Zolephera zathu zamakhalidwe," ndi "zolakwika" ndizo zomwe zidatipanga ife monga lero. Ndiwo ofanana mwamaganizidwe, malingaliro, ndi uzimu ofanana ndi makwinya, zipsera, ndi mizere yoseketsa matupi athu.
Sitidzakhala anthu angwiro, koma titha kukhala anthu angwiro. Monga Leonard Cohen adalira nyimbo yake ya wabi sabi Nyimbo, “Pali vuto lililonse. Ndi momwe kuwala kumalowera. ”
