Zamkati
- Osabwereza zolakwa zanu zakale m'moyo
- Osakokera wina aliyense mu sewero lanu
- 1. Khalani oleza mtima musanayambe chibwenzi mutatha banja
- 2. Dikirani musanayambe chibwenzi mutatha banja
- 3. Gwiritsani ntchito mlangizi, mtumiki, wothandizira, wophunzitsa za ubale
- 4. Muyenera kuyesetsa kukhululuka
- 5. Tengani nthawi yochira musanakhalire limodzi banja litatha
Chisudzulo ndi chomaliza: tsopano, muyenera kudikirira mpaka liti kuti mudzayambe chibwenzi mutatha? Ifika positi lero. Pomaliza. Mudasudzulana mwalamulo. Ndiye, ndiyenera kuyamba liti chibwenzi titatha banja?
Ngakhale zidatenga miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, zolembedwazo zili patsogolo panu ndipo ndinu amuna kapena akazi omasuka. Ndiye muyenera kudikirira mpaka liti banja litatha?
Wokondwa kuti ubwerere kudziko la zibwenzi? Kodi mudali pachibwenzi kale?
Kwa zaka 28 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa woyamba, mlangizi komanso wophunzitsa moyo David Essel wakhala akuthandiza amuna ndi akazi kusintha kuchokera kwa okwatirana mpaka kukhala anthu osudzulana.
Pansipa, David amalankhula za nthawi yomwe tiyenera kudikirira, tisanabwerere kudziko la maubwenzi ndikupeza tsiku lathu loyamba titasudzulana.
“Adabwera muofesi yanga ali wokondwa kwambiri. Adali atapatukana kwa chaka chimodzi, chisudzulocho chikadapitilira kwakanthawi, koma adakumana ndi bambo wamaloto ake.
Vuto lokhalo? Sanakonzekere ndipo samadziwa momwe angakhalire ndi chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo?
Chifukwa chake adasewera masewera amphaka ndi mbewa. Anagwa pamutu pake, koma kenako adabwereranso kusowa chitetezo chokhala osakonzeka kudalira amuna pambuyo pazomwe mwamuna wake wakale adamchitira.
Ndizovuta zomwe ndaziwona pakuchita kwanga kwa zaka 28 zapitazi. Chimene okwatirana amalephera kuzindikira ndichakuti kupeza chikondi pambuyo pa chisudzulo sikophweka monga momwe kumvekera. Amuna ndi akazi adakalowa msanga kulowa mchikondi ndipo amayamba zibwenzi asanakwatirane, ndipo ambiri a iwo, chisudzulo chisanathe.
Osabwereza zolakwa zanu zakale m'moyo
Kukhala pachibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndikukondana mutasudzulana, zonsezi zitha kukhala zolakwika zazikulu komanso zosasinthika. Ndipo ngati mutachita izi, muli ndi mwayi wa 99.9% kuti mubwerezenso zolakwa zanu zam'mbuyomu, ndikukhala ndi munthu wofanana kwambiri ndi mwamuna wanu wakale kapena mkazi wanu wakale, chifukwa simunachotsere zakale.
Chitsanzo cha chibwenzi choyambirira cholephera atasudzulana:
Inenso ndinagwa mumsampha umenewu. Zaka zopitilira 10 zapitazo, ndidakondana ndi mayi wina yemwe adandiuza kuti wasudzulidwa, patangopita miyezi itatu nditamva kukambirana naye ndi loya wake pafoni, kuti adasiyana kwa zaka zisanu ndikusudzulana kunalibe kwina kulikonse.
Sanathe kudziwa zinthu zachuma zomwe zimadza ndi kupatukana kapena kapena kusudzulana.
Nditamufunsa pamene anali kuchoka pa foni, adavomereza kuti sanandiuze zoona.
Tsopano zonse zinali zomveka, chisokonezo chosatha ndi sewero pakati pa iye ndi ine, kulephera kwake kundidalira ngakhale kunena zowona nane.
Ndipo inde, ubale udatha pomwepo.
Chifukwa chake, kuti ndiyankhe funso loti, 'ndiyambe liti kukhala pachibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo?', Sindikusamala kuti mwasiyana liti, ngati simunasudzulane m'malingaliro mwanga simunakonzekere kudzakhala m'dziko la kukhala pachibwenzi. Abwenzi opeza cholowa? Palibe zingwe zogonana?
Osakokera wina aliyense mu sewero lanu
Zachidziwikire ngati mukufuna kupita momwemo, koma musakokere wina aliyense mu sewero lanu mpaka mutasudzulana kapena kuyamba chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo, ndiyeno ngakhale pambuyo pake, zomwe ndikambirana pansipa, momwe mungafunire nthawi wekha.
Chitsanzo cha moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo cha amuna:
Wothandizira wina yemwe ndimagwira naye ntchito kuchokera ku Australia, adandilumikizana mtima wake utasweka kwathunthu ndi mnyamata yemwe anali pachibwenzi naye.
Mwamunayo wachita cholakwika chokhala pachibwenzi atasudzulana nthawi yomweyo. Anali atapatukana kwa zaka zitatu, anali atakhala pachibwenzi zaka ziwiri, ndipo tsiku lotsatira atalandira mapepala omaliza osudzulana m'makalata adamuyimbira foni ndikumuuza kuti akufuna nthawi yokhala yekha.
Kuti kulekana ndi chisudzulo zidamupweteka kwambiri, tsopano amangofuna kusewera masewerawo osakhala pachibwenzi.
Kodi mukuwona mawonekedwe apa? Ngati mukuwerenga izi ndipo mwasiyana ndipo mukuganiza kuti ndinu osiyana ndi ena onse ... Apa pali chodabwitsa chachikulu, simuli.
Palinso ntchito yambiri yoti muchite ngakhale mapepalawo ataperekedwa, kulengeza kuti chisudzulo chanu ndi chovomerezeka ndisanapereke umboni woti aliyense adzakhale pachibwenzi atasudzulana nthawi yomweyo.
Tiyeni tiwone malamulowo
Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiwone malamulo athu pansipa omwe timagwiritsa ntchito ndi makasitomala anga onse omwe akufuna kukhala okonzeka, ofunitsitsa komanso okhoza kubwerera mumasewera achikondi ndikuyamba chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
1. Khalani oleza mtima musanayambe chibwenzi mutatha banja
Ngati mwasiyana, musabweretse wina aliyense pachisokonezo chanu ndi sewero lanu kapena kuyambanso chibwenzi mutatha banja. Mukuyenda mwachangu kwambiri momwe mungachitire zoyipa kwa aliyense amene mungabwere naye. Dikirani.
Khazikani mtima pansi. Kapena ngati mukuyenera, khalani oona mtima ndi anthu zakulephera kwanu kukhala pachibwenzi chimodzi ndi kuwauza kuti mukufuna kuti musangalale. Ndilibe chiweruzo ngati ndi zomwe mukufuna kuchita, koma musakhale pachibwenzi mutasudzulana.
2. Dikirani musanayambe chibwenzi mutatha banja
Tiyerekeze kuti mwasudzulana, mwalamulo, boma lomwe mumakhala likukutumizirani zikalata zosonyeza kuti ndinu mfulu komanso / kapena mkazi waufulu.
Ndiye, kudikirira mpaka liti musanakwatirane? Yembekezani chaka chimodzi musanakhale pachibwenzi ndi aliyense.
Kodi ndikumveka ngati amayi anu kapena abambo anu? Ngati ndingatero, zimangotanthauza kuti ndi anzeru ngati gehena.
Zimatenga masiku ngati 365 osakwatiwa, kudutsa tsiku lanu lobadwa, tchuthi ndi zina zonse nokha kuti muwone momwe zimakhalira kuti mudzipangire nokha.
Kukhala pachibwenzi mutatha banja, ngakhale musanakonzekere, ndi chododometsa chenicheni choti mupeze zomwe zidasokonekera muubwenzi wanu womaliza, zomwe zayenda bwino, zomwe muyenera kusiya, zomwe muyenera kugwiritsitsa.
Ngati mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito chibwenzi ngati chododometsa cha kusungulumwa, kusatetezeka, kunyong'onyeka kapena china chilichonse, mukuyambiranso kudzidalira nokha ndi wina aliyense amene mumabweretsa ku gehena kwanu limodzi nanu.
3. Gwiritsani ntchito mlangizi, mtumiki, wothandizira, wophunzitsa za ubale
Gwirani ntchito ndi mlangizi, mtumiki, wothandizira, wothandizira moyo wapaubwenzi amene amadziwa zomwe akuchita kuti apeze zolakwika zomwe "mudapanga" muukwati wanu wakale. Osadandaula ndi zomwe mnzanu walakwitsa pompano, yang'anani pa inu.
Pamene mutha kudziyitanitsa nokha pazolakwa zilizonse zomwe mudapanga, muli paulendo wopita kuchipatala ndikukonzekera chibwenzi mutatha banja.
4. Muyenera kuyesetsa kukhululuka
Ndi katswiriyu, muyenera kuyesetsa kukhululukira 100%, ndiko kukhululuka 100% pachilichonse chomwe mnzanu wakale adachita. Kodi anakunyengani? Kunama kwa iwe? Akukuzunzani m'maganizo kapena mwakuthupi? Angakuperekeni?
Mpaka mutagwira ntchito ndi katswiri ndikuthana ndi mkwiyo wanu wonse, zambiri mwazitsimikizidwe, simukhulupirira mnzanu wotsatira.
Mukukhala opweteka kwa bulu kwa aliyense amene mungakhale naye pachibwenzi chifukwa kusowa chitetezo kwanu kudzapitilizidwa mwachikondi.
Makasitomala ambiri omwe ndakhala ndikugwira nawo ntchito, poyamba anali atasokoneza makina athu, osaganiza kuti atha kukhala okha kwa chaka chimodzi.
5. Tengani nthawi yochira musanakhalire limodzi banja litatha
Ambiri mwa makasitomala anga anali atakhazikitsa kale maubwenzi asanalekanitsidwe, kapena panthawi yopatukana, kapena atangotumiza mapepala osudzulana anali ndi maso awo kwa wina kuti adzaze mphwayi. Kupanda kukhala ndekha. Izi ndizowona za abambo ndi abambo ambiri omwe amakhala pachibwenzi atasudzulana nthawi yomweyo sizimveka.
Musagwere mumsampha uwu! Chifukwa chake, mungayambirenso chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo komanso kudikirira kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji musanayambiranenso? Zachidziwikire, pali malamulo ena okhudzana ndi zibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo kuti maanja azitsatira.
Muyenera kutenga nthawi yonse yomwe mukufuna kuchira. Ngati muli ndi ana? Oo Mulungu wanga, mwina zingatenge chaka ndi theka kapena zaka ziwiri. Mukufuna kukhala chitsanzo chabwino m'miyoyo yawo.
Ngati muli ndi khomo lozungulira la chibwenzi mutatha banja, komwe kuli munthu m'modzi kwa miyezi ingapo ... Ndiye munthu wosiyana ... Mukuwatumizira uthenga womwe simukufuna kuti awone: kuti kuopa kukhala nokha ndi wamkulu kuposa kuopa kukhazikika.
Ndikudziwa kuti zomwe zili pamwambazi ambiri a inu zidzakusangalatsani, ndipo zili bwino. Zinthu zomwe zimatikwiyitsa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zowona.
Mbali inayi, ngati mukugwirizana ndi zomwe tafotokozazi? Zokukomerani. Pezani thandizo tsopano. Chifukwa chake mutha kuyembekezera ubale wabwino mtsogolo, mukayamba chibwenzi mutatha banja.
Ntchito ya David Essel 'imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny McCarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Bukhu lake la 10, nambala yina yogulitsa kwambiri ili ndi mutu wathunthu wonena za chikondi chakuya, ndipo amatchedwa "Focus! Lembani zolinga zanu ... Chitsogozo chotsimikizika cha kupambana kwakukulu, malingaliro amphamvu ndi chikondi chachikulu. ”