Zamkati
- 1. Ali ndi malingaliro pazonse
- Zikutanthauza chiyani:
- Zoyenera kuchita:
- 2. Samayesa kulumikiza
- Zikutanthauza chiyani:
- Zoyenera kuchita:
- 3. Amayesa kulamulira
- Zikutanthauza chiyani:
- Zoyenera kuchita:
- 4. Amadzimva kukhala woyenera kuzinthu
- Zikutanthauza chiyani:
- Zoyenera kuchita:
- 5. Sakufuna kukukondani
- Zikutanthauza chiyani:
- Zoyenera kuchita:
- Osataya chiyembekezo
Ngati mwawonapo za 2005 Chilamu-Chilamu, ndiye kuti muyenera kudziwa kuti mantha a mkwatibwi posachedwa akuchita ndi apongozi amtsogolo omwe amadana nanu. Kaya kusakondwa kwake kwachuluka kapena ayi, azilamu ake amatha kubwera mosiyanasiyana. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ubale woyipa ndi mkazi wofunika kwambiri uyu ungakhale wowononga ubale wanu ndi mnzanu.
Nazi momwe mungapezere apongozi amtsogolo omwe akhala akuponyera mthunzi wotsika:
1. Ali ndi malingaliro pazonse
Momwe mungaziwonere:
- Nthawi iliyonse mukamachita chilichonse, ayenera kuwongolera momwe mumachitira zinthu.
- Amakulanga pagulu.
Zikutanthauza chiyani:
Sikuti izi ndizopanda ulemu zokha, koma zikuwonetsa kuti apongozi anu samakhulupirira chiweruzo chanu, chomwe ndi mbendera yayikulu kwambiri. Akayamba kukukondani, yesetsani kukhala ndi mutu wazomwe zodzudzulazi ndizovomerezeka komanso zomwe zikuwoneka chifukwa cha ziwonetsero kapena zifukwa zina zomwe sizikukukhudzani. Ngati akukudzudzulani pagulu, mtundu uwu wamthunzi umakhala chiwonetsero chazokha champhamvu chomwe cholinga chake ndikukugwetsani zikhomo zochepa ndikukuchititsani manyazi.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Ichi ndi chisonyezo chachikulu chosalemekeza, ndipo ngati zinthu zili kale pano, ndibwino kuti mnzanu alowerere ndikukutetezani. Osapeputsa mphamvu ya mnzanu kuuza mayi ake kuti zomwe akuchita sizoyenera komanso ndizopanda ulemu. Ngati amalemekeza zomwe mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi wachita, abwerera ndikulingalira zomwe adachita.
2. Samayesa kulumikiza
Momwe mungaziwonere:
- Apongozi anu amapewa kucheza nanu.
- Safuna kuyesetsa kuti adziwane nanu.
Zikutanthauza chiyani:
Ngakhale zingakhale zabwino kukhala ndi apongozi omwe ali ndi manja, kutalikirana kumeneku kungakhale kukana kuvomereza momwe inu ndi mnzanu mulili okondana. Kudzitchinjiriza ndi iye mwina ikhoza kukhala njira yake yothetsera ubale uliwonse womwe ungachitike pakati pa inu nonse, zomwe ndiyofunika kuziyembekezera.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Ngakhale zitakhala zovuta, yesetsani kukhala wofunitsitsa kufikira kwa apongozi anu. Mukamayesetsa kuti mumudziwe, pamapeto pake akhoza kukubwezerani. Funsani mnzanu kuti akupatseni chidziwitso, monga zomwe apongozi anu amakonda kuchita, ndipo muwone ngati mungakonze zochitika zolumikizirana komwe angafune kumasuka kukufotokozerani. Mwinanso mutha kumuphatikizira pokonzekera ukwati wanu ngati chiwonetsero cha kuyanjananso.
3. Amayesa kulamulira
Momwe mungaziwonere:
- Apongozi anu savomereza malire.
- Amayesa kusokoneza mbali za chibwenzi chanu.
Zikutanthauza chiyani:
Apongozi anu atha kuchita izi chifukwa akuwona kuti udindo wawo monga mkazi wofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi tsopano walowedwa m'malo ndi inu. Chifukwa cha izi, atha kuyesayesa kugwiritsa ntchito mnzake kapena angayeseze zinthu zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti muwoneke ngati woyipa poyesa kukupatulani.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Choyamba, inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kuzindikira momwe akuyendetsera miyoyo yanu ndikuwona komwe kuli kosayenera. Pokhapokha nonse mutazindikira gawoli pamene inu ndi mnzanu mungayambe kupanga mapulani amasewera momwe mungauzire apongozi anu kuti abwerere pang'ono. Kuwonetsa mgwirizano polumikizana naye kumathandizanso kuchita zodabwitsa.
4. Amadzimva kukhala woyenera kuzinthu
Momwe mungaziwonere:
- Apongozi anu amakwiya msanga ngati simunaphatikizepo.
- Amakwiya ngati sakumva kuti akumulemekeza mokwanira.
Zikutanthauza chiyani:
Monga mayi wa mnzanu, atha kumva kuti udindo wake m'banjamo ndiwokwera kwambiri. Kupatula apo, ngati sakadakhala za iye, bwenzi lanu sakanakhalako! Chifukwa cha izi, atha kumva kuti zofuna zake ziyenera kulemekezedwa nthawi zonse, makamaka popeza anali ndi zokumana nazo zambiri pamoyo wake ndipo amadzimva kuti amadziwa mwana wake kuposa wina aliyense.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Apongozi amtunduwu amatha kukhala ovuta kuthana nawo. Komabe, muyenera kukumbukira kuti chidutswa chosowa mu zonsezi ndi yanu udindo m'banja. Pamapeto pake, ndiwe amene mnzanu adasankha kukhala naye moyo wake wonse ndi ̶ ndipo ndizofunikira kwambiri! Chifukwa chake mukamacheza ndi apongozi anu, yesetsani kumuuza kuti mumamuyamikira, komanso dzilankhuleni nokha ngati pakufunika kutero. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala ndi msana ngati apongozi anu amuchotsa.
5. Sakufuna kukukondani
Momwe mungaziwonere:
- Apongozi anu sanayesetse kusintha malingaliro awo okhudza inu, ngakhale mnzanu atanena kuti amakukondani ndipo mupitiliza.
Zikutanthauza chiyani:
Zojambula zoyambirira ndizovuta kusintha. Komabe, moyenera, ayenera kukhulupirira lingaliro la mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi ndikukulandirani kubanja. Chifukwa chake, ngati angasankhe kukhala wokwiya, zikuwonetsa kuti apongozi anu akudziika patsogolo pamalingaliro ake zaubwenzi wanu kuposa chisangalalo cha mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Gawo laudindo wowonetsa kuti mumamtanthauza zabodza kwa mnzanu. Komabe, ngati mnzanu wachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akwaniritse amayi ake, ndiye kuti palibe zambiri zomwe mungafune. Tikukhulupirira, apongozi anu amatha kudzifufuza kuti awone momwe zochita zake zimapwetekera mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi, munthu amene akuti amamukonda.
Osataya chiyembekezo
Ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu amtsogolo ukhoza kuwoneka wopanda chiyembekezo tsopano, koma osataya chiyembekezo. Nthawi zambiri, nkhawa za apongozi anu zimawotchera ngati akuwona kuti akumulemekeza kapena ayi. Chifukwa chake, ngati mungathe kumutsimikizira kuti malo ake mumtima mwa mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi sakhala pachiwopsezo, ziyenera kuthandiza kwambiri. Ngakhale ndizovuta, ngati mukumva moona mtima kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi ameneyo, zingakhale bwino kuyesetsa mwakukhoza kwakanthawi kuti mukhale ndi madalitso a mayi wina wofunika pamoyo wa mnzanuyo.
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