Zamkati
- 1. Maanja awonetserana wina ndi mzake momwe akumvera
- 2. Maanja amathandizana wina ndi mnzake kukula
- 3. Othandizana nawo nthawi zonse amalumikizananso ndikupezanso wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Amagwira ntchito paukwati wawo ndikukondana nthawi zonse
Mutha kudziwa nthawi zonse ngati awiriwo ali pachibwenzi chokhazikika. Mukawayang'ana limodzi kapena kupatukana, onse amawoneka okhutira, omasuka, omasuka, komanso osangalala. Chibwenzi chokhazikika chimapangitsa onse awiri kukhala osangalala monga aliyense payekhapayekha, ndikusangalala ndi nthawi yawo limodzi ngati banja. Chifukwa chake, mutha kuwona mukakhala ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhala pachibwenzi chotere.
Komabe, ichi sichinthu chomwe chimaperekedwa kwa ochepa okha mwayi; tonsefe titha kugwira ntchito paubwenzi wathu ndikuwasandutsa olimbikitsa komanso olimbikitsa m'miyoyo yathu.
Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti maubwenzi onse okhazikika komanso athanzi amagawana zinthu zingapo zofunika:
1. Maanja awonetserana wina ndi mzake momwe akumvera
Izi sizitanthauza chikondi ndi chikondi chokha komanso mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwitsanso. Maubwenzi olimba sadziwika pakakhala kusagwirizana kapena kusakhutira ndi zochitika zina.
Ngakhale mabanja osangalala akadali anthu ndipo amakumana ndi zovuta monga tonsefe. Koma, mosiyana ndi maubwenzi osakhazikika, abwenzi omwe ali pachibwenzi chokhazikika ali ndi njira yotsimikizika yolankhulirana zakukhosi kwawo, onse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti samadzipatula, samangochita zankhanza, kapena kuwachitira nkhanza, ndipo osapondereza malingaliro awo.
Amanena kusakhutira kwawo momveka bwino koma mwaulemu komanso mwachikondi, ndipo amathetsa mavuto ngati banja (osati monga ochita zibwenzi monga zimakhalira muubwenzi woopsa). Ndipo ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimagwira ntchito m'njira ziwirizi - sikuti ubale wokhazikika umangolimbikitsa kuwonetsa malingaliro osiyanasiyana, komanso ngati mungayambe kufotokozera zosowa zanu komanso malingaliro anu motsimikiza, ubalewo ukhoza kukhala wabwinopo .
2. Maanja amathandizana wina ndi mnzake kukula
Ngati mukuganiza za munthu amene mumamuganizira kuti ali pachibwenzi chokhazikika komanso choyenera, mwina mumakhala ndikumakhala pamaso pa munthu wokwaniritsidwa, wina yemwe samangokhala gawo la anthu awiri komanso amadzipangira okha . Izi ndichifukwa choti, mosiyana ndi maubale osakhazikika, abwenzi omwe ali maubwenzi okhazikika amakhala olimba mtima komanso otetezeka.
Zotsatira zake, samadzimva osatetezeka anzawo akamayesa zinthu zatsopano, kupititsa patsogolo ntchito yawo, kapena kuphunzira chizolowezi chatsopano. Akakhala osatetezeka pa za wina ndi mzake ndi kudzipereka kwa wokondedwa wawo, amathera mphamvu zawo zonse ndikudzivumbitsira okha kuyesetsa kuti mnzakeyo akhale pafupi momwe angathere. Ndipo wokondedwa wawo nawonso sangachite bwino m'malo osathandizirako ndipo nthawi zambiri amamaliza womaliza.
Koma anzawo akakhala olimba mtima, amakhala othandizana komanso okangalika pakukula kwa wokondedwa wawo, ndipo amakhala ofunitsitsa kugawana zomwe akumana nazo zatsopano - zomwe zimabweretsa gawo lotsatira laubwenzi wokhazikika.
3. Othandizana nawo nthawi zonse amalumikizananso ndikupezanso wina ndi mnzake
Ndipo izi, mwanjira ina, zimachitika kudzera pakulankhula za zilakolako, zokonda, komanso maluso ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano. Pogawana zakumtima kwawo ndi wokondedwa wawo, komanso polankhula za momwe amathera tsiku lawo (mwatsatanetsatane, osati "Inde, zinali bwino"), iwo omwe ali muubwenzi wolimba amapezanabe wina ndi mnzake.
Ndipo, pamene wina asintha, monga zimachitikira mosalephera ndi nthawi, mnzake sanasiyidwe, koma anali pamenepo kuti akwaniritse ndikupeza mwayi wosintha. Njira ina yolumikizirana tsiku lililonse ndikulumikizana mosagonana, zomwe ndizomwe maanja omwe ali pachibwenzi chokhazikika nthawi zonse. Izi zikutanthauza kukumbatirana, kugwirana manja, ndikungogwirana chabe komanso kuyandikira apa ndi apo.
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, kupatula kugonana, komwe kumatha kukankhidwira pambali kapena kukhalabe gawo lofunikira la maubwenzi osakhazikika, ndi lamulo kuti ngati chibwenzi chikusokonekera, zizindikilo zachikondi izi zimatha.
4. Amagwira ntchito paukwati wawo ndikukondana nthawi zonse
Zingamveke zosasangalatsa kwa iwo omwe anazolowera kukhala ndi zibwenzi zosayembekezereka komanso "zosangalatsa", koma ichi ndichizindikiro cha onse awiri kukhala okhwima m'maganizo mokwanira kuti akhale ndi ubale weniweni komanso wathanzi. Kotero, kodi kugwira ntchito pa ubale kumawoneka bwanji?
Ndikukhazikitsa zonsezi pamwambapa, komanso kukhala otseguka, kupereka chitsimikizo kwa wokondedwa wanu za chibwenzi chanu, kugwiritsa ntchito moyo wanu wapaubwenzi kupereka zowonjezera kuubwenzi, komanso kuwona kudzipereka ngati chinthu chabwino chomwe maudindo omwe amabwera nawo ndichinthu china kulandiridwa ndi chimwemwe.
Kukhala muubwenzi wolimba sichinthu chomwe chimangochitika (kapena sichichita). Zimatengera khama kuti muphunzire kukhala mbali ya banja, koma mukazichita bwino, ndizopindulitsa kwambiri, mwina kwa moyo wonse.