Zamkati
- Mikangano yosathetsedwa
- Miyezo iwiri
- Kutaya kudzidalira kwanu
- Musakhale omasuka kuika zofuna zanu patsogolo
- Kufunika kokhala khungu lokulirapo komanso wolimba
Tiyeni tisapange mafupa okhudza izi; Munthu wina akakumana koyamba ndi mnzake wa narcissist, atha kukhala kuti adasangalatsidwa ndi chikondi ndi kudzipereka.
Atha kukhala kuti adasesedwa pamapazi awo ndikuwapangitsa kuganiza kuti mwambi 'zida zankhondo zowala' ulipo kapena kuti adakumana ndi amuna kapena akazi angwiro kwambiri omwe adakumana nawo.
Mnzake wamankhwala (yemwe tsopano ndi mnzake) atha kukhala kuti adakwanitsa kuchita izi kwa nthawi yayitali mpaka atadziwa kuti atha kusiya kuyang'anira.
Mwina ankadziwa kuti nthawi imeneyo idzafika liti; zikadakhala zosavuta kuti azizindikire chifukwa adzakhala atakwaniritsa cholinga chawo chofuna kukutsimikizirani kuti inu ndi iwo munali machesi abwino kwambiri omwe angatenge dzanja lanu muukwati.
Zachidziwikire, atha kukhala kuti anali ndi malingaliro amomwe amatanthauza zomwe amalankhula komanso kutengera lingaliro lawo laukwati koma tiyeni tiwone zowona. Akadangokhala ndi zokonda zawo pamtima.
Munali chabe akatswiri pamasewera ngakhale atakhala kuti akufuna atakumana ndi 'chikondi' ndiukwati kapena momwe amaonera.
Mukuwona ochita narcissist samachita chilichonse kuti apindule ndi wina aliyense kuphatikiza kunyengerera; saganizira momwe wina akumvera, ndipo alibe chisoni kapena chisoni. M'malo mwake, zonse ndi za iwo.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukuganiza zokwatiwa ndi wankhanza samalani!
Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera mukakwatirana ndi wankhanza:
Mikangano yosathetsedwa
Zilibe kanthu zomwe mukufuna, zomwe mukufuna, kapena kuchuluka kwa chilungamo chomwe muli nacho kwa mnzanu, chinthu chimodzi chomwe mungayembekezere mukadzakwatirana ndi wankhanza ndikuti palibe izi zomwe zimawadetsa nkhawa.
Ngakhale izi zitha kumveka zowopsa, ndizowona.
Ngati muli ndi mnzanu wa narcissist, amangoganizira zosowa zawo komanso zomwe akufuna kuchita. Chifukwa chake chilichonse chomwe mungafune, muyenera kuthana nacho nokha kapena kukhuta kwina.
Sitivomereza izi, sizomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja likhale labwino, ndipo muyenera kuyembekezera chilungamo, chikondi, ndi chisamaliro kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Tonsefe timayenera izi, koma simupeza kuchokera kwa wokwatirana ndi a Narcissistic.
Miyezo iwiri
Chiyembekezo chokhumudwitsa chomwe mudzakumane nacho mukadzakwatirana ndi wankhanza ndichikhalidwe chachiwiri.
Muyenera kuthana ndi mikangano, mwachitsanzo, muyenera kupatsa mnzanu wa narcissist chilungamo, muyenera kuwadziwitsa kuchuluka kwa zomwe mukufuna ndikuzifuna, muyenera kunyengerera, kukonda, ndi samalirani mnzanu, ndipo muyenera kuzichita momwe amafunira zomwe zingasinthe!
Koma simungayembekezere chimodzimodzi.
Monga tafotokozera mgawo la 'mikangano yosathetsedwa' umu ndi m'mene zidzakhalire ngati mutakwatirana ndi wankhanza.
Kutaya kudzidalira kwanu
Chifukwa cha kunyengerera, mupanga; kusowa kwa chikondi, kuyenda pamatumba a mazira omwe mungachite, zovuta zomwe muyenera kuchita mukakwatiwa ndi wankhanza, popita nthawi, mudzasiya kudzidalira.
Kumbukirani kuti mudzakwatirana, mudzipereka ndikukhala ndi mnzanu ndipo mutha kukhala ndi ana inunso.
Pali munthu m'modzi yekha yemwe angatenge, ndipo muyenera kukhala okonzeka kukankhidwira kumalo amenewo, nthawi yonseyi mukumverera kufooka ndikuyiwala kuti ndinu ndani.
Musakhale omasuka kuika zofuna zanu patsogolo
Monga mitu yonse yomwe yatchulidwayi ikunenapo ngati mudakumana ndi zovuta zakukwatiwa ndi wankhanza, mudzazindikira kale kuti ndinu ozama kwambiri.
Koma muyenera kuzindikira kuti simudzakhala omasuka kuyika zosowa zanu patsogolo (zomwe zimaphatikizira kuletsa maulendo, kusasangalala ndi zikondwerero zanu, kapena kuthana ndi zosowa zanu monga mtendere ndi chete kapena Chitani zinthu zomwe mukufuna kuchita) bola mukakhalabe pabanja ndi mnzanu wamiseche.
Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera mukakwatirana ndi wankhanza.
Kufunika kokhala khungu lokulirapo komanso wolimba
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungayembekezerenji mukadzakwatirana ndi wankhanza, chabwino, muyenera kukhala owonda khungu.
Kaya zida zanu zitha kutha pakapita nthawi zitha kukhalabe zowoneka, mwina mutha kukhala onenepa komanso olimba mtima koma mukufunikiradi kuchita izi?
Kodi mukuganiza kuti mungakwatirane ndi wankhanza ngati mukudziwa kuti muyenera kukhala owonda khungu komanso olimba mtima, mukufunikiradi kudzimana kwambiri kuti mukwatire wankhanza?
Chomwe mukuyenera kudziwa ndi chakuti muli ndi mwayi wosankha yemwe mudzakwatirane naye ndikukhala naye moyo wanu wonse, zedi mutha kukhala mukukondana ndi bwenzi lanu koma ngati mukuganiza kuti ukwati ndi wanamiseche udzakhala mphepo kapena wosangalatsa ganiziraninso.
Tikamayenda pamoyo zosowa zathu zimasintha, nthawi zina timafunika kukhala olimba kwa mnzathu, nthawi zina anzathu amafunika kutithandiza, tikhoza kukhala pachiwopsezo nthawi zina koma izi zikachitika mnzanu sadzakhala nanu.
Mgwirizano ndi chiyanjano chomwe chiyenera kuchitika muukwati sichidzakhalapo, ndipo mudzakumana ndi moyo nokha ndikukhala osungulumwa kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
Musanalowe m'malo, ngati mukuganiza kuti bwenzi lanu ndi wankhanza, siyani ndikuganiza. Sikuti pano ndikuti mupereka kwa mnzanu koma tsogolo lanu lonse.
Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, musanalowe m'banja ndibwino kulingalira zoperekapo upangiri usanalowe m'banja kaya nokha, kapena ndi chibwenzi chanu, ngati mungathe kuti abwere! Ndizochepa zomwe mungadzichitire nokha.