Zamkati
- Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kuti mkazi achite ndikusiya
- Ndiye, NCHIFUKWA chiyani mumangokhalabe mukugwirizana chibwenzi chatha?
Chibwenzi chanu chikamatha, mumakhala ngati kuti mwagundidwa ndi galimoto ndikukusiyani muli ndi dzenje mumtima mwanu. Mafundo m'mimba mwanu ndi osamveka, simungathe kudya, simungagone, mumakhala ndi nthawi yokhazikika, ndipo koposa zonse muli ndi mafunso ambiri:
N'CHIFUKWA CHIYANI? Chifukwa chiyani ine? Chifukwa chiyani adandichitira izi? Chifukwa chiyani adachoka? Cholakwika ndi ine nchiyani? Ndinatani? Sikuti ndimamukwanira?
Pali maubwenzi ena omwe amakusiyani mumisili masiku ambiri atatha, ndiye kuti pali maubale ena omwe angakupangitseni kufunsa, nchiyani chomwe chalakwika ndi ine, zitatha; ndiyeno pali maubale omwe amakusiyani osalankhula, opanda chiyembekezo, komanso odandaula ngati mungakondenso.
Ziribe kanthu momwe munamvera banja lanu litatha, chowonadi ndichakuti, anali chisankho chake. Kusankha kusiya, kusankha kubera, kusankha kukwatiwa ndi munthu wina, komanso kusankha kuchita zonse zomwe adachita, ndipo palibe zomwe mukadachita zomwe zikadamulepheretsa kukupweteketsani, kubera, kusankha wina apo ayi, kukwatiwa ndi wina, kapena kuchoka.
Simuli ndi udindo pazomwe amachita kapena machitidwe ake, koma muli ndi udindo wanu. Muli ndi udindo pazomwe mumasankha kuti muwone momwe zinthu zilili, muli ndi udindo woti mumulandire kapena ayi, muli ndi udindo wololeza zomwe zichitike kuti zisinthe momwe mumaonera amuna, ndipo muli ndi udindo wokhudza kapena ayi mudzasiya ndikupita patsogolo.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kuti mkazi achite ndikusiya
Ndizovuta kuchoka kwa bambo yemwe mkazi amaganiza kuti adzakhala kalonga wake, iye kwamuyaya, kapena iye yekhayo. Ngakhale patadutsa zaka zambiri akuchitiridwa nkhanza, kunyalanyazidwa, kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi kuzunzidwa, ndikunamizidwa, zimayamba molimbika kusiya ndikupitilira.
Nthawi zambiri ndimadabwa, nanga za ife, ndichifukwa chiyani timapitilizabe kukhalabe, bwanji tikupitilizabe kulandira mabodza ndi chinyengo ndikuyitcha chikondi kenako ubale ukatha timasweka. M'malo mokhala osangalala kuti sitiyeneranso kuthana ndi seweroli, tili achisoni chifukwa adachoka ndikuyesera mobisa kuti amubweretse ndikukhala kunyumba kulingalira za kuyimba kapena ayi.
Ndiye, NCHIFUKWA chiyani mumangokhalabe mukugwirizana chibwenzi chatha?
Nditha kuyankha, chifukwa ndidakhalapo, ndipo chifukwa chake nchakuti simunamulole ndipo simunamugonjetse.
Nazi njira zisanu ndi imodzi zotsimikizika zokuthandizani kuti musiye, mumugonjetse, ndikupitilira:
- Lembani kalata yomwe ndikusankha kuti mumulembere kalata, koma osatumiza. M'kalatayo, fotokozerani momwe mukumvera, fotokozani zowawa zanu, fotokozani zowawa zanu, fotokozani mkwiyo wanu, ndipo nenani zonse zomwe mukufuna kunena, kuganiza zonena, ndikukhumba mukadakhala muli pachibwenzi, ndikuchotsa zonse m'dongosolo lanu. Kenako, dulani kalatayo mu tizidutswa tating'ono kwambiri, ndipo ikani timatumba tating'onoting'ono m'thumba, tsekani thumba, mulowerere m'madzi, ndiyeno muponyeni.
- Chotsani manambala ake onse pafoni yanu yonse, chotsani maimelo ake onse, chotsani maimelo ake onse kuchokera ku imelo yanu, bokosi lotumizira, bokosi lopanda kanthu, ma drafti, mabokosi azinyalala, ndi malo osungira zakale, ndikudzichotsera naye m'malo onse azama TV.
- Chotsani zinthu zake zonse kunyumba kwanu ndi zonse zomwe zimakukumbutsani za iye. Siyani zovala, mabuku, mphatso, nyimbo, makandulo, zodzikongoletsera, magazini omwe mudalemba za zomwe mwakumana nazo (pokhapokha mutazigwiritsa ntchito kulemba buku), ndi zinthu zomwe adasiya kunyumba kwanu abwenzi.
- Pitani kumalo odyera omwe mumawakonda, gulani zinthu zomwe mumazikonda kugolosale, pitani kumalo omwe mumawakonda, konzani nyumba yanu momwe mumafunira, valani mitundu YANU yomwe mumakonda, yatsani kandulo YANU yomwe mumakonda, ndipo muzivala tsitsi lanu momwe mumafunira.
- Ikani nambala yake pa sipamu ndi auto kukana, mwina akaganiza zoyimbanso.
- Musaiwale chifukwa chomwe chibwenzi chidatha, ndi zomwe unadutsamo. Zochitika ndi mphunzitsi wabwino kwambiri, chifukwa chake dzikhazikitseni kuti mudutsenso zomwe mwadutsamo, musapange mayendedwe osabwereza zibwenzi.
Chibwenzi chikatha, moyo ungaoneke kutha nawo ndipo ukhoza kukhala chowawa. Zimatenga nthawi kuti muthe; koma panthawi ina, chimwemwe chanu chidzabwerera, mudzakhalanso osangalala, ndipo mudzapitirira ndi moyo. Dzipatseni nthawi kuti muthe, ndipo pewani kufuna kubwerera.