Zamkati
- Kukonda amayi
- Kupereka ufulu kwa wina wosakhala kholo
- Nkhani zakusunga makolo omwe achoka panyumba
- Kusunga ana ndi makolo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
Ngati makolo osudzulana angafike pamgwirizano pa pulani ya kulera yomwe imawoneka yanzeru, woweruzayo amavomereza. Koma nthawi zonse makolo sangagwirizane, woweruzayo ayenera kuwapangira zisankho zakulera, potengera izi:
- Chidwi chachikulu cha ana;
- Ndi kholo liti lomwe liyenera kupatsa ana malo okhazikika; ndipo
- Ndi kholo liti lomwe lingalimbikitse ubale wa ana ndi kholo linalo.
Kukonda amayi
M'nthawi zam'mbuyomu, sizinali zachilendo kuti makhothi azipereka kwa ana aang'ono kwambiri kwa amayi pomwe makolo awo asudzulana kapena atasiyana. Lamuloli lanyalanyazidwa kwambiri kapena limangogwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chowombera makolo onse awiri akafuna kusunga ana awo asanakwane. M'maboma ambiri, makhothi tsopano amapereka chilolezo chokhala ndi ana potengera zofuna za ana, osaganizira za kholo la kholo.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti, ngakhale popanda lamulo la khothi, makolo ambiri osudzulana omwe ali ndi ana ang'onoang'ono amasankha kuti amayi azikhala ndi okhawo kapena ana oyang'anira okha, ndi bambo kusangalala ndi nthawi yoyendera yomwe ikukula pamene ana akukula wamkulu.
Zonsezi zikunenedwa, pamene mayi wosakwatiwa ali ndi mwana, mayiyo amakhalabe ndi ufulu woyang'anira mwanayo mpaka khothi litanena mosiyana.
Kupereka ufulu kwa wina wosakhala kholo
Nthawi zina palibe kholo lililonse loyenera kukhala ndi ana, mwina chifukwa chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena matenda amisala. Zikakhala choncho, khothi limatha kupereka ufulu wokhala ndi ana kwa wina wosakhala kholo, nthawi zambiri agogo omwe amadzakhala oyang'anira mwanayo. Ngati wachibale palibe, mwanayo atha kutumizidwa kumalo osungira ana kapena malo aboma.
Nkhani zakusunga makolo omwe achoka panyumba
Makolo omwe amasamuka ndikusiya ana ndi kholo linalo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi vuto lopeza mwana mtsogolo. Ngakhale kholo litachoka kuti lituluke m'malo owopsa kapena osasangalatsa kwenikweni, kuti adasiya anawo ndi kholo linalo amatumiza uthenga kukhothi kuti kholo linalo ndi chisankho choyenera kusungidwa. Chifukwa chake, woweruza atha kukhala wosakakamiza kusuntha anawo, kungoti asasokoneze zochitika za ana.
Kusungidwa kwa ana komanso malingaliro ogonana a makolo
Chigawo cha Columbia chokha ndi chomwe chili ndi malamulo pamabuku ake onena kuti kugonana kwa kholo sikungakhale chifukwa chokhacho chosankhira mwana kapena kulandira mphoto. M'maboma ochepa - kuphatikiza Alaska, California, New Mexico, ndi Pennsylvania - makhothi agamula kuti kholo lachiwerewere la kholo, palokha, silingakhale chifukwa chokana ufulu wokhala ndi mwana kapena ufulu wokacheza.
M'maboma ena ambiri, makhothi agamula kuti oweruza atha kukana kusunga kapena kuchezera chifukwa chazakugonana kwa kholo, koma pokhapokha atawona kuti chikhalidwe cha makolo chikhoza kusokoneza moyo wa mwanayo.
Chowonadi nchakuti, makolo azigonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akadali ndi nthawi yovuta kuyesa kupeza mwana m'makhothi ambiri, makamaka ngati kholo limakhala ndi mnzake. Izi ndichifukwa choti oweruza nthawi zambiri amatengera zomwe iwowo kapena anzawo amachita akamaganizira zabwino za mwanayo, ndipo atha kufunafuna zifukwa zina kupatula momwe kholo limakondera kukana kumuyang'anira kapena kumuchezera moyenera.
Mayi aliyense wa LGBT yemwe ali ndi vuto lokhala m'ndende ayenera kufunsa loya wodziwa zambiri kuti amuthandize.
Kusunga ana ndi makolo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
Kwa makolo amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe ali okwatirana kapena olembetsedwa muukwati wofanana, nkhani zakulera zizisamaliridwa mofanana ndi momwe zimakhalira kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Khotilo lidzalemekeza ufulu wa makolo onse ndikupanga zisankho zakuwasunga ndi kuwayendera potengera zomwe mwana angachite.
Komabe, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ngati kholo limodzi lokha mwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi ufulu wovomerezeka. Izi ndizomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri mwachitsanzo:
- Wokondedwa m'modzi amatenga ngati munthu wosakwatira kuti azitsatira malamulo okhwima ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha;
- Mayi wachisembwere amaberekera kudera lomwe ubale wa awiriwo suzindikirika kotero kuti mnzake saonedwa ngati kholo lovomerezeka; kapena
- Banja limayamba chibwenzi mwana atabadwa ndipo kholo lachiwiri silololedwa mwalamulo.
Makhothi amasiyanasiyana pamilandu ya ufulu wokhala ndi kuyendera kholo lachiwiri pamilandu iyi. M'mayiko ena, makhothi agamula kuti munthu amene wakhazikitsa ubale wamakolo ndi mwana ndi mwana wobadwa naye ali ndi ufulu wokayendera, ndipo nthawi zina, ngakhale kuloledwa kukhala kholo.
M'mayiko ena, makhothi savomereza makolo osakhala achibadwidwe konse chifukwa chakusakhala ndi chibadwa kapena ubale wovomerezeka ndi mwanayo.Malamulowa pakadali pano mosakayikira ndi osadalirika, ndipo njira yodalirika ndikuwongolera mgwirizano ndi kholo linalo m'malo mopita kukhothi ndikumenyera nkhondo ana omwe mwawalera limodzi.
Kuti mumve zambiri zamalamulo osungira ana m'dziko lanu, funsani loya wazam'deralo kuti akuthandizeni.