Zamkati
- 1. Mukufuna kudzipitilira
- 2. Kuyang'ana bwino kwa diso
- 3. Maonekedwe akunja ndi amkati
- 4. Kununkhiza
- 5. Mahomoni
- 6. Chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amakondana mosavuta?
- 7. Yambani kugwira ntchito pawekha kuti mutsatire chikondi molimba mtima
Funso lomwe limasamalidwa kwambiri ndipo silinayankhidwe (mbali zambiri) ndichifukwa chake anthu amakondana.
Tsopano, funso lovuta ili ndi mayankho osiyanasiyana; mutha kuyiyankha mwasayansi, mutha kuyankha kudzera munjira yaumunthu, kapena mutha kuyifotokoza mwachidule kuti Mulungu adalenga mwamuna ndi mkazi awiriawiri motero amakhala ogwirizana.
Tikadali achichepere, chinthu chomaliza chomwe chimabwera m'maganizo mwathu ndi malingaliro aumulungu. Timakonda kulingalira za chikondi monga momwe timamvera, monga zotengeka zomwe zimatipangitsa kufuna kuchita misala. Zinthu zing'onozing'ono monga kugwirana manja, kupukuta mmbuyo, kudya chokoleti pa Tsiku la Valentine, ndi kujambula mayina pamtengo wa mitengo zonse zimawoneka ngati zizindikilo za chikondi.
Komabe, mukamakalamba, mumayamba kumvetsetsa kuti chikondi sikumva koma ndikusankha. Mumasankha kukhala pomwe zinthu zavuta, mumasankha kukhala ndiudindo, ndikusankha kukwaniritsa malonjezo anu.
Sayansi yayesera ndikufotokozera chikondi m'njira zambiri, ndipo yankho la funsoli limangosintha kutengera munthu amene ali mchikondi.
Zina mwazifukwa zomwe anthu amakonda kukondera zatchulidwa pansipa. Pitilizani kuwerenga kuti mupeze.
1. Mukufuna kudzipitilira
Nthawi zambiri, anthu ambiri amakondana ndi munthu yemwe samangopeza zokongola komanso zoyenera komanso wina amene amawakonda.
Izi zimapanga malo / malo omwe mumapeza mwayi watsopano wokulitsa.
Zomwe munthuyu amakukondani zimakupatsirani mwayi woti mudziwe, kusintha nokha, ndi kukulitsa malingaliro anu; mukazindikira mwayi uwu, mumamva chisangalalo chambiri.
2. Kuyang'ana bwino kwa diso
Kuyang'anitsitsa maso kumakupatsani mwayi wowona momwe moyo wa mnzanu umakhalira ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimakopa chidwi cha wina ndi mnzake.
Ngakhale kwa anthu awiri omwe sanakumaneko kale, kuyang'ana m'maso kumatha kudzaza kulumikizana kwakukulu ndikumverera kuti mwamudziwa munthuyo kwanthawi yayitali.
Kugwirizana kumeneku kumatha kuganiziridwa ngati chikondi ndi anthu ena.
3. Maonekedwe akunja ndi amkati
Mumayamba kukondana pamene thupi lanu limagwirizana ndi zoyambitsa zomwe zilipo mdziko lakunja. Zoyambitsa zoyenera zimatanthawuza kuzinthu zowoneka bwino, zowoneka bwino, zowoneka bwino, komanso zovuta zomwe zimachitika munthawi yoyenera, nthawi, ndi malo.
Kunena mwasayansi, muubwenzi wokondana, pali mitundu yambiri yamankhwala ofunikira.
Kuti wina ayambe kukondana, njira zosiyanasiyana zakunja ndi ma neurochemical amayenera kuti zigwirizane motsatira momwe mungakondere.
4. Kununkhiza
Anthu ambiri amakondana ndi anzawo kapena anzawo chifukwa cha momwe amanunkhira.
Mawu omwe ali pamwambapa akumveka ngati opanda pake, koma kununkhira kwa thupi kumayambitsa chidwi pakati pa abambo ndi amai. Tsopano, kumbukirani kuti sitimangokambirana za fungo wamba lomwe malaya akuda a mnzanu ali nawo komanso malaya opanda fungo ndi zovala zina.
Zizindikiro za kununkhiza izi zimalowa muubongo wanu kudzera munjira yolimbitsa thupi, ndipo mumayamba kukondana.
5. Mahomoni
Mahomoni amatenga gawo lalikulu pakupanga kukondana.
Kodi pakamwa panu pamauma ndipo mtima wanu umayamba kugunda mukangomenya belu la pakhomo panu? Izi ndizomwe zimachitika chifukwa chapanikizika, ndipo zimachitika mahomoni monga serotonin, dopamine, ndi adrenaline amatulutsidwa m'magazi anu.
Okonda omwe adakwatirana ali ndi dopamine yambiri m'magazi awo.
Neurotransmitter iyi imathandizira pakulimbikitsa chisangalalo chochuluka ndipo imakhudzanso ubongo monga kugwiritsa ntchito cocaine.
6. Chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amakondana mosavuta?
Nthawi zina, magulu awiri amaso amakumana mchipinda chonse, ndipo zina zonse ndi mbiriyakale.
Kwa ambiri a inu, kukondana kumakhala kovuta. Nthawi zina mumafuna kukondana, koma mumalephera kubwezera. Komabe, kuti mukhale mchikondi, muyenera kupereka chikondi ndikukhala ndi chikondi mwa inu nokha.
Mukamva kuti ndinu okondedwa, komanso pamene mumadzikonda, mumatha kufotokoza za chikondi ichi. Pofunafuna wokondedwa, wina amene samadzimva kuti ndi woyenera kukondedwa, sangadziwonetse ngati wokondedwa motero sangakonde. Kusadzidalira kumeneku kumasuliridwa ngati kufunikira, ndipo izi zimabwezeretsa zokonda zina monga kutsitsi tsabola.
Wosowa yemwe mumawonekera, ndipamene mudzathamangitsa anthu, ndipo mudzakhala ndi mwayi wotsika wopeza chikondi.
7. Yambani kugwira ntchito pawekha kuti mutsatire chikondi molimba mtima
Chifukwa chake, ngati ndinu owopsa ndikupeza chikondi, ndiye kuti muyenera kudzichitira nokha.
Yesetsani kudzidalira, kudzikonda nokha, tsegulani kudziko lakunja ndipo musanadziwe, chemistry ikutsatirani, ndipo mudzayamba kukondana.
Osatsatira mwambi wakale "wotsutsana amakopa" ndipo m'malo mwake khalani ndi cholinga chopeza wina amene ali ndi mfundo zomwezo komanso malingaliro anu pamoyo wanu.
Mwanjira iyi, mudzakhala ndi mnzanu woti mugawane naye moyo wanu kwamuyaya.