Zamkati
Mutha kukhala kuti mukudzifunsa nokha momwe mungakhululukire amuna anu chifukwa chakukhumudwitsani. Ngati simunatero, mukadakhala osiyana pakati pa akazi okwatiwa. Ukwati wopanda zolakwa ndi nthano, tiyeni tichotse izi. Ndipo kaya ndi zomwe wanena kapena kuchita, kaya ndichinthu chaching'ono kapena cholakwika choyipa, palibe chilichonse chochepa kwambiri kufunsa funso ili. Chifukwa chiyani? Ndiosavuta - simupita kulikonse popanda izi.
Koma, popeza ukudzifunsa momwe ungachotsere chikhululukirocho, udazindikira kale izi. Muukwati, zimakhala zachizolowezi kunyozedwa, kusalemekezedwa, kusayamikiridwa, kuvulazidwa munjira zilizonse zomwe zingachitike miliyoni. Tsoka ilo, zimabwera ndikuti mumagawana nthawi yanu yonse ndi malingaliro anu onse ndi munthu wina. Mumadzitsegula kuti muthe kuvulazidwa. Koma, ngati tiwona ukwati motero, zimamveka ngati chiwembu chowopsa. Komabe, ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukuvutika pakali pano ndipo mukulephera kukukhululukirani, mwina mukudziwa kuti sizowona. Kungoti amapangidwa kuchokera mwa anthu awiri, onse ndi zolakwika ndi zofooka zawo. Zotsatira zake, azimayi ambiri amachitidwa zachinyengo, kunyozedwa, kukankhidwa, kunamizidwa, kunyozedwa, kusadziwika, kunyengedwa ...
Tsopano, tiyeni tifunse funso la chifukwa chake muyenera kukhululukiranso zinthu izi poyambanso.
Kukhululuka kumakumasulani
Kukhululuka ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe chidzakumasuleni, kukumasulani ku zolemetsa zakukhala wozunzidwa, kunyamula katundu wa kulakwa, chidani ndi mkwiyo zomwe zimadza chifukwa chotsalira mkwiyo. Si zachilendo kumva ululu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwake. Ndipo chinthu chinanso ndichachilendo - kuyanjana ndi mkwiyo wathu. Mwina sitingazindikire momwe tikufunira (ayi, tifunikira) kuti ichoke, koma nthawi zina zimachitika kuti timamamatira kukhumudwa chifukwa, ndizodabwitsa, amatipatsa chitetezo. Tikavutika ndi zomwe zidachitika, zili kwa ena kuti akonze. Ziri kwa amuna athu kupanga bwino, popeza ndiye amene adayambitsa. Tiyenera kulandila zoyesayesa zake zotipangitsa kudzimva kukhala athanzi komanso osangalala.
Komabe, izi nthawi zina sizimachitika, pazifukwa zambiri. Samayesa, samachita bwino, sasamala, kapena palibe chilichonse chokwanira kukonza zomwe zawonongeka. Chifukwa chake, tatsalira ndi mkwiyo wathu. Sitikufuna kukhululuka, chifukwa ndiye mphamvu yathu yokhayo yolamulira pazomwe zikuchitika. Sitinasankhe kukhumudwa chonchi, koma titha kusankha kupitiriza kukwiya.
Ambiri anganene kuti kukhululuka ndichinthu choyamba kuchira. Komabe, pakuchita, izi sizili choncho. Chifukwa chake, musadzikakamize kuti muyambe kuchira (ndikukonzanso banja lanu ngati ndi zomwe mungachite) ndi gawo lalikulu ngati kukhululuka nthawi yomweyo. Osadandaula, pamapeto pake mukafika kumeneko. Koma kwa ambiri, kukhululuka sichinthu choyamba. Nthawi zambiri amakhala omaliza. Kuphatikiza apo, kukhululuka sikofunikira kwenikweni kuti mumangenso banja lanu (kapena chidaliro chanu ndi chiyembekezo chanu) ndipo zimabwera ngati chotulukapo cha machiritso omwe.
Dzichiritseni nokha poyamba
Gawo loyamba pakupanga malo achonde okhululuka ndikudutsa momwe mumamvera, ndikutenga nthawi yanu kutero. Muyenera kudzichiritsa nokha musanakhululukire. Muli ndi ufulu wopita kukadandaula, kukana, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo musanapeze njira yolumikizira zomwe zidachitika ndikuwona kwanu kwatsopano ndikukhala ndikokumana nazo. Pambuyo pake, mutha kuyamba kukonza ubale wanu, kulumikizanso, ndikukhazikitsanso kukhulupirirana. Ndipo mutha kukhala okonzekera kukhululukidwa koona.
Ngati sizingavutike, kumbukirani - kukhululuka sikutanthauza kuti amuna anuwo alakwa. Sikuti kunyalanyaza zomwe adachita ndikumusunga chifukwa cha zomwe adachita. M'malo mwake, ndikusiya kufunitsitsa kumulanga, kusungira chakukhosi ngati baji yaulemu, kusunga chakukhosi. Pokhululuka, muyenera kusiya zonsezo ngakhale sanakufunseni. Chifukwa chiyani? Kukhululuka ndi njira yabwinobwino kwambiri yolamulira zomwe zikukuchitikirani. Mukakhululuka, simumvera chisoni zochita za ena. Mukakhululuka, mumabwezeretsanso mphamvu pamalingaliro anu, m'moyo wanu. Sichinthu (chabe) chomwe mumamuchitira, kapena chifukwa cha kukoma mtima kwanu - ndichinthu chomwe mumadzichitira nokha. Ndi nkhani yokhudza kukhala kwanu ndi thanzi labwino.