Zamkati
- Zikhulupiriro zambiri zokhudza akazi
- 1. Maudindo osiyanasiyana monga chiphunzitso cha chisinthiko
- 2. Zikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe zimakhudza kwambiri amayi
- 3. Mayankho osiyanasiyana pakugonana komanso kugonana mosiyanasiyana
- 4. Momwe gulu limakhalira ndi akazi
- 5. Kusiyana kwakukulu pachikhalidwe komanso kuchuluka kwa anthu
- 6. Kukwera kwa kayendedwe kodabwitsa # kaeto
- 7. Kusiyana pamalingaliro
Amayi akuyembekezeka kukhala ndi khalidwe losiyana ndi amuna kuyambira kalekale. Lingaliro loti amuna ndi akazi omwe ali m'mapulaneti awiri osiyana lidagwirapo kuyambira pomwe bukuli, 'Amuna achokera ku Mars, Akazi akuchokera ku Venus', idasindikizidwa koyamba mchaka cha 1992.
Bukuli linalembedwa ndi wolemba waku America komanso mlangizi wa maubwenzi, a John Grey. Amapangidwa mosiyanasiyana ndipo amayembekezeredwa kuti azichita mosiyana.
Zikhulupiriro zambiri zokhudza akazi
Zikhulupiriro ngati azimayi ziyenera kukhala zodetsa nkhawa m'mbali zonse za moyo wawo zikulamulira kwambiri mdera lathu ngakhale lero. Ngakhale pali anthu omwe akuswa maunyolo ndikufufuza zachiwerewere kuposa makolo awo, anthu amachita chilichonse chotheka kuti athane ndi mawu awo.
Anthu ambiri, kuphatikiza azimayi ochepa, akutsutsana ndi malingaliro akuti kugonana koyenera kuyenera kugwiritsira ntchito akazi awo mphamvu zogonana pafupipafupi.
Gulu lolamulira amuna likuwopa kukulitsidwa kwa mphamvu kwa amayi ndikulimbikira kudziko lomwe akazi amatonthozedwa ndikukakamizidwa kuvomera maudindo omwe awapatsa ndi gulu lenilenilo.
Zifukwa zomwe amayi asochera kuti asagwiritse ntchito mphamvu zawo zogonana kapena asankha kukhala chete pazokhumba zawo zogonana.
1. Maudindo osiyanasiyana monga chiphunzitso cha chisinthiko
Malinga ndi chiphunzitso cha chisinthiko cholembedwa ndi Okami ndi Shackelford, azimayi amaika ndalama zambiri pokhala kholo kuposa amuna. Zachidziwikire, njirayi yakhudza momwe amasankhira wokwatirana naye komanso kufunitsitsa kwawo kuchita zibwenzi kwakanthawi.
Kuyambira kale, pakhala pali gawo lodziwika bwino lazikhalidwe zamunthu aliyense.
Amayi amayembekezeka kukhala panyumba ndikusamalira banja. Poyamba, sanaphunzitsidwe ngakhale maphunziro amakono. Iwo anali ndi zingwe mosiyana ndi amuna am'deralo.
Mwamwayi, chithunzi chasintha lero.
Akazi akwanitsa kuthana ndi zovuta zonse. Alamulira thupi lawo ndi malingaliro awo. Komabe, samapeza chisangalalo chochepa pakungoyang'ana mozungulira mpaka atabereka ana.
2. Zikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe zimakhudza kwambiri amayi
Chilakolako cha kugonana mwa amayi chimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chilengedwe ndi zochitika - Edward O. Laumann
Edward O. Laumann, Ph.
Malinga ndi Pulofesa, amuna achikulire ambiri ochepera zaka 60 amaganiza zogonana kamodzi patsiku. Kumbali inayi, theka lokha la azimayi omwe amagwera zaka zomwezo amavomereza kuti amaganiza zogonana pafupipafupi. Kulingalira zakugonana kumachepa ndi ukalamba koma amuna amaganizira kawiri kawiri.
3. Mayankho osiyanasiyana pakugonana komanso kugonana mosiyanasiyana
Kafukufuku wina wofalitsidwa mu Journals of Gerontology akuwonetsa momwe amuna ndi akazi azaka zosiyana amatengera zogonana mosiyanasiyana. Kafukufukuyu adalemba kafukufuku kuchokera kuma kafukufuku ena awiri, National Health and Social Life Survey ndi National Social Life, Health, and Aging Project.
Mu zaka zakubadwa za zaka 44-59, 88% ya amuna adapezeka kuti akuchita zachiwerewere mosiyana ndi azimayi omwe ali mgulu lomweli. Amayiwo, anali pafupi kwambiri ndi amuna, popanda kusiyana kwakukulu. Akuti pafupifupi azimayi 72 pa 100 aliwonse amakhala akugonana azaka zomwezo.
Kufufuzanso kwina kunatsimikizira kuti amuna adawonetsa chikhumbo chogonana kasanu pamwezi ndi akazi omwe akuwonetsa kuchepa pang'ono pa 6.5.
Kafukufukuyu adapezanso kuti amuna akupitilizabe kuwonetsa chilakolako chogonana ngakhale atadutsa zaka zapakati.
Ziwerengero zomwe zatchulidwazi zikutsimikizira kuti amuna amakonda kuchita zogonana kuposa akazi. Chifukwa chake, kulankhula zakugonana ndi abwenzi sakhala nkhani yayikulu kwa iwo mosiyana ndi amuna anzawo.
4. Momwe gulu limakhalira ndi akazi
Sosaiti yakhala ikuchitira akazi mosiyana kuyambira mibadwo. Pali mayiko ngati America komwe azimayi amakhala ndi ufulu wonse wofufuza za kugonana. Apa, madera akumaloko ali ndi zinthu zabwino zoti azichita kuposa kupinira mphuno zawo m'zipinda za anthu ena.
Koma, pali mayiko ena ochepa pomwe akazi saloledwa ngakhale kutulutsa khungu lawo pagulu. Chikhalidwe ndi chipembedzo ndizigawo ziwiri zomwe zimatsimikizira momwe munthu ayenera kuchitira pagulu.
5. Kusiyana kwakukulu pachikhalidwe komanso kuchuluka kwa anthu
Kanema wokondeka wachimereka waku America, 'Sex and the City 2', anali atawonetsa momveka bwino zakusiyana pakati pa azimayi omwe akuteteza kanemayo ndi azimayi aku Abu Dhabi.
Kupitilira apo, kanema yemweyo adawonetsa momwe dziko longa Abu Dhabi lomwe linali kupita patsogolo m'njira zambiri lidakhalabe losasamala pazakugonana. Iyi si nkhani chabe yokhudza mayiko aku Arabia. Ngakhale azimayi ochokera kumayiko aku South-East Asia ngati India amachita nawo zofananira tsiku lililonse.
6. Kukwera kwa kayendedwe kodabwitsa # kaeto
Mwachitsanzo, manyazi akhala chida chothandiza kuthana ndi zofooka pano. Sosaiti nthawi zonse imakonda kuimba mlandu wamkazi ngakhale atakhala kuti amazunzidwa pagulu. Osatengera mayendedwe omwe akupitilira '#meToo' padziko lonse lapansi, owerengeka ochepa omwe safuna kukweza mawu awo motsutsana ndi ochimwa awo.
Izi ndichifukwa choti omwe adagwiriridwa amapwetekedwabe ndi mafunso owasokoneza omwe amafunsidwa ndi maloya kukhothi lotseguka.
Ngakhale azimayi akumayiko opita patsogolo ngati America amachititsidwa manyazi. Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi American Association of University Women, akuwonetsa kuti kuchita manyazi ndi imodzi mwazinthu zoyambira kuchitira zachipongwe zomwe ophunzira aku sekondale komanso kusekondale amachita.
Chitsanzo china chonyazitsa chinafika pawailesi atolankhani pomwe Huffington Post idasindikiza maimelo omwe adasinthana pakati pa CEO wa a Miss America Organisation Sam Haskell ndi mamembala ena osiyanasiyana. Opambana mpikisanowu adachita manyazi komanso manyazi m'maimelo.
7. Kusiyana pamalingaliro
Sizowona kwathunthu kuti azimayi onse amakonda kubisala zolakalaka zawo ndikuletsa kuwunika zogonana ngati amuna.
Azimayi ena amalankhula bwino pankhaniyi. M'malo mwake, kusintha kwa nthawi kwapangitsa akazi kukhala opanda mantha komanso olimba mtima.
Amayi ambiri pang'onopang'ono akuchoka pazolakwika ndikupeza chisangalalo chopitilira ubale wawo wolimba.
Komabe, pali azimayi omwe amaganiza kuti kugonana ndi nkhani yachinsinsi. Amakonda kusunga moyo wawo wogonana mobisa. Ndiokhulupirika kuposa amuna ambiri zikafika pamagulu ndipo amasangalala ndi kugonana ndi bwenzi limodzi.
Kwa iwo, kugonana ndi chida chofotokozera zakukhosi kwa wokondedwa wake m'malo mokhutiritsa njala yamthupi lake. Mosiyana ndi amuna, akazi amakonda kuyerekeza, kukumbukira, ndikuganiza zogonana kotentha. Akamaganiza zokhala limodzi ndi wokondedwa wake, chilakolako chake chogonana chimakhala pachimake.
Kwa amayi, kugonana kumangokhudza kusangalala ndikumakhala limodzi osati kungotentha moto wamkati wakugonana.
Pomaliza, chotsani ziletsozo ndikufotokozera momasuka zilakolako zanu zakugonana
Mosakayikira, ndi anthu, chikhalidwe chakale, ndi omwe amati apolisi amakhalidwe abwino omwe ali ndi udindo woletsa azimayi amibadwo yonse.
Zili kwa amayi kapena ayi kuyankhula pagulu kapena ayi.
Koma, kukhalabe opanda chidwi ndi zokhumba zanu kuseri kwa zitseko ndikolakwika. Kugonana ndikofunikira ngati mukufuna kuti ubale wanu ukhale wopambana. Koma, muyenera kukhala omasuka kwa mnzanu ndikufotokozera momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna ndi zokhumba zanu.
Ndikofunikira kuti azimayiwo azikhala ndi nthawi yokomana komanso kukondana kwinaku ali omasuka kutchula zosowa zawo zakugonana, ndi anzawo kuti akhale ndiubwenzi wosangalala komanso wosangalatsa.