Zamkati
- 1. Kumabweretsa mavuto azandalama
- 2. Mumakhala kutali ndi kutengeka
- 3. Zimabweretsa malingaliro olakwika
- 4. Moyo wanu wogonana umavutika
- 5. Palibe kulumikizana komwe kumatanthauza kunyengerera
- 6. Mumafunafuna ena kuti akwaniritse zosowazo
- 7. Zikuwonetsa kunyalanyaza
- 8. Banja likuyenda bwino
Kuperewera kwa kulumikizana m'banja ndikofulumira kusudzulana. Ukwati umapangidwa ndi anthu awiri ochokera kosiyana ndipo ali ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zolumikizirana, zosowa, ndi zosowa. Chifukwa chake ndizomveka momwe zinthu zosiyanasiyana izi zimapangitsira kuti zikhale zovuta kuti maanja azilankhulana. Chibwenzi chanu chimafunikira kulumikizana kwamphamvu kwam'maganizo ndi kuthupi kuti muchite bwino.
Ntchito yanu, nyumba, komanso kugonana zitha kuvutika mukapanda kugawana malingaliro anu ndi mnzanu. Izi zimapangitsa kukhala kofunikira kwambiri kuphunzira kulumikizana ndi mnzanu, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta kapena zosasangalatsa.
Wokondedwa wina akamazizira mnzake kunja kumakhala zovuta kutsatira. Nazi zifukwa 8 zakusoweka kuyankhulana m'banja sizabwino.
1. Kumabweretsa mavuto azandalama
Ndalama zimatha kukhala nkhani yovuta kwa anthu ambiri. Nkhaniyi imatha kukhala yovuta kuyambitsa, makamaka ngati mukuphatikiza ndalama zanu kapena simunamuuze mnzanuyo za ngongole zilizonse zomwe muli nazo.
Kaya mukugawana akaunti yakubanki kapena mukusungitsa ndalama zanu, ndikofunikabe kukambirana za zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito mwezi uliwonse. Mabanja omwe samakambirana nkhani zandalama atha kugwiritsira ntchito ndalama mopitirira muyeso, amadzimva kuti ndi osapeza ndalama, ndipo amadzakhala ndi ngongole zozama kuposa momwe anali asanakwatirane.
Ndikofunika kuti maanja akambirane za momwe angagwiritsire ntchito ndalama zawo ndikukhala omasukirana pa ngongole ndi zomwe adzagwiritse ntchito.
2. Mumakhala kutali ndi kutengeka
Mukamacheza kwambiri ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu, mumangokhala osaganizirana kwambiri. Kuyankhula ndi momwe mumalumikizirana. Pakakhala kusamvana m'banja, chikondi chimayambiranso kuzirala.
Kafukufuku wina wokhudzana ndi machitidwe a maanja, omwe adachitika zaka zopitilira 40, adapeza kuti zovuta zoyankhulirana zomwe zimafala kwambiri zimakhudzana ndi kukana kulankhulana (osalankhulana), kudzudzulidwa ndi anzawo, kulumikizana modzitchinjiriza, komanso kunyozana poyesera kulankhulana.
Kutalikirana ndi malingaliro ndi gawo lalikulu pakusudzulana. Pamene okwatirana afalikira kutali, samakonda kuchita zogonana, kukhala ndi usiku, kapena kukonza zomwe sizikuyenda bwino m'banjamo.
3. Zimabweretsa malingaliro olakwika
Ngati maanja sakhala omasukilana wina ndi mnzake zimakhala zosavuta kuti ayambe kulingalira. Ngati simukuwuza mnzanu kuti muzachedwa kuofesi kapena mukupita ndi anzanu mutatha ntchito m'malo mopita kunyumba akhoza kuganiza kuti mukuchita zomwe simukuyenera kukhala.
Ngati simukuyankhulana ndi mnzanu, malingaliro onse atha kupangidwa muubwenzi. Ngati mwatopa kwambiri ndipo mukukana kugonana tsiku lina, mnzanuyo angaganize kuti mwatopa nawo ndikuwona kuti akunyalanyazani. Ngati mukulunga mavuto anu, mnzanu angaganize kuti ndiwo amachititsa nkhawa zanu.
4. Moyo wanu wogonana umavutika
Pali zovuta zambiri zakugonana zomwe zimabwera pakakhala kulumikizana mbanja. Mwachitsanzo, kusowa kwa chiwonetsero kumatha kubweretsa chisokonezo pakati pa okwatirana ndipo kumatha kubweretsa chidani ndikukhumudwitsidwa.
Momwemonso, munthu m'modzi akhoza kulakalaka zogonana koma akumva kuti sangakwanitse kuyamba. Izi zingakhale zokhumudwitsa kwa onse awiri.
Maanja akuyenera kukambirana momasuka ndi moona mtima za moyo wawo wapamtima ndi zokonda zawo. Nthawi zambiri zogonana, malingaliro, zosowa, ndi zosintha zonse ndizokambirana zofunikira zomwe maanja ayenera kukhala nazo kuti apange mgwirizano wogonana mofanana.
5. Palibe kulumikizana komwe kumatanthauza kunyengerera
Simungakhale wolondola nthawi zonse, momwe mungafunire mwanjira ina. Ubale umafuna kusamala. Ubwenzi wabwino umamangidwa pakukhulupirirana, ulemu, ndi kulolerana. Pomwe palibe kulumikizana m'mabanja, maanja sakhala ndi mpata wonyengerera.
Ngati simungathe kukumana pakati pazinthu zina mbanja mwanu, ndiye kuti mukuchotsera zofuna za mnzanu, zosowa zake, ndi momwe akumvera. Izi zitha kukhala zowopsa pakupambana kwa chibwenzi. Wokondedwa wanu amafuna kuti muzindikire momwe akumvera ndikuwathandiza. Khalidwe lotere limalimbikitsa chikondi ndi kudalirana.
6. Mumafunafuna ena kuti akwaniritse zosowazo
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti kusayankhulana m'banja ndi chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana. Anthu okwatirana omwe salankhulana ndi ena amangokhala malo ogona. Kutalikirana ndi mnzanu m'maganizo kapena machitidwe anu kungathe kuwononga chibwenzi
Kuwona kuti mulibe chitsimikiziro kapena kuti mnzanu sakukumvani kapena akusamalira zosowa zanu zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa. Kusowa ulemu ndi chikondi kumeneku kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa, zomwe zimatha kupangitsa kuti m'modzi wa iwo azifunafuna wina kunja kwa banja kuti akwaniritse zomwe akuwona kuti banja lawo likusowa.
7. Zikuwonetsa kunyalanyaza
Chizindikiro chimodzi choti mukunyalanyaza ubale wanu ndi ngati inu ndi mnzanu mwasiya kulankhulana. Kaya mutuwo ndi wawukulu kapena wawung'ono, ubale wanu umatha kuvuta pokhapokha inu ndi mnzanu mukakana kuyankhulana.
Maubwenzi achimwemwe, athanzi amayang'ana pakugawana malingaliro, momwe akumvera, komanso nthawi yocheza. Kulankhulana ndi komwe kumakupangitsani kukhala ndi chidwi ndi wina ndi mnzake, ndi momwe mnzanu amaphunzirira kukuwerengerani, momwe mumalumikizirana, komanso momwe mumathetsa kusamvana.
8. Banja likuyenda bwino
Anthu amasintha nthawi zonse ndikukula. Izi zimapangitsa kukhala kofunikira kwambiri kuti maanja aphunzire kusintha ndikusintha limodzi. Pakakhala kusamvana m'banja zimatha kuyambitsa chibwenzicho.
Simuyenera kusiya kuphunzira za wokondedwa wanu. Muyenera kuphunzira kusinthira limodzi kuti mukhale ndi ubale wodalirika, wokhwima mwauzimu pomwe nonse mumamvetsetsa zofuna za ena.
Kulephera kulumikizana m'banja kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto m'banjamo. Kuyankhula ndi mnzanu ndi momwe mumalongosolera chimwemwe chanu, chisoni chanu, zofuna zanu, zosowa zanu, ndi momwe mumathetsa kusamvana.
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri m'banja labwino. Chitani khama kuti mukhale omasukirana ndi mnzanu. Kutero kudzakulitsa kukondana kwanu ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ogwirizana.