Zamkati
- Kodi banja loyipa ndi liti?
- Kodi nchifukwa ninji anthu amakhalabe muukwati woipa?
- Kodi mungasiye bwanji banja loipa?
Pali ukwati wabwino, wapakatikati, komanso woyipa. Ndipo chosangalatsa ndichakuti, mwina simudziwa kuti muli ndi uti. Izi ndichifukwa choti anthu awiri akatengana kwambiri, okhudzika, thupi, komanso zolinga zanu zamtsogolo, mumangotaya chiyembekezo. Izi si zachilendo.
Koma, ngati muli pachibwenzi chowononga kwambiri, kapena ngati muli ndi mavuto m'banja, muyenera kuyambiranso kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika. Chifukwa banja loipa likhoza kukhala ndi moyo wopanda tanthauzo.
Nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kumvetsetsa zonse zomwe mungadziwe za maukwati ovuta komanso zoyenera kuchita nawo.
Kodi banja loyipa ndi liti?
Maukwati onse amagwera pamavuto apa ndi apo. Chiyanjano chilichonse nthawi zina chimasokonezedwa ndi mawu okhadzula kapena kusakwanira kwamalingaliro. Nthawi zonse pamakhala china chake chomwe banjali silikusangalala nacho, ndipo mutha kuyembekeza kuti achitiridwa chipongwe kapena kungokhala chete nthawi ndi nthawi.
Pakhoza kukhala kusakhulupirika komanso mzaka zonse zomwe mudzakhale limodzi. Koma, zonsezi sizikutanthauza kuti muli mu banja loipa, ayi. Izi zimangotanthauza kuti inu ndi mnzanu ndinu anthu.
Koma, "zizindikiro" za banja loipa zimaphatikizapo zonsezi. Kusiyanaku ndikulimba kwawo komanso pafupipafupi, makamaka poyerekeza ndiubwenzi wonsewo.
Ukwati woyipa ndi womwe m'modzi kapena onse awiri amakhala ndi zizolowezi zowopsa, osayesayesa kusintha.
Mwanjira ina, banja loipa limalumikizidwa ndi zonse zomwe ubale wokhulupirirana suyenera kukhala.
Ndiwo banja lomwe mumachitika nkhanza zakuthupi, zamaganizidwe, zogonana, kapena zotukwana. Amachita zachiwerewere mobwerezabwereza, ndipo samatsatiridwa ndi kuyesayesa kwenikweni kuti muchepetse kuwonongeka kapena kusiya. Othandizana nawo amalumikizana mosadzikakamiza, zonyoza zili pazakudya tsiku lililonse, pali kusinthana kwa poizoni kambiri.
Ukwati woipa nthawi zambiri umakhala ndi mavuto osokoneza bongo ndi zotsatira zonse za matendawa.
Ukwati woyipa ndi umodzi pomwe kulibe mgwirizano wowona, m'malo mongokhala molakwika.
Kodi nchifukwa ninji anthu amakhalabe muukwati woipa?
Palibe yankho losavuta ku funso ili, makamaka ngati mungafunse munthu wotero. Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe amakumana nazo, akaganiza zakusiya kapena ayi, ndi mantha.
Kuopa kusintha, zosadziwika, komanso kuda nkhawa ndi momwe adzasamalire ndalama komanso zonse zomwe zimadza ndi chisudzulo. Koma, uku ndikumverera kogawana kwa aliyense amene athetsa banja.
Chofunika kwambiri kwa anthu omwe amakhala m'mabanja osavomerezeka ndi kulumikizana kwamphamvu kwamaganizidwe ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzawo, ngakhale atakhala owopsa kwambiri. Mpaka pomwe ndimakonda. Monga tanena kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi, ena mwina sangadziwe kuti banja lawo ndi loipa.
Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika chifukwa chodalira zomwe zimachitika m'banja lomwe silabwino. Momwe zimachitikira sizingafotokozedwe mwachidule, koma kwenikweni, anthu awiri amalowa muubwenzi ndi zokonda kuti apange ubale wowononga, makamaka chifukwa chaubwana wawo padziko lapansi komanso paubwenzi.
Ngati zizolowezi zolakwika izi sizisamaliridwa mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri, awiriwo amakhala ndi ubale wowopsa womwe umadzetsa kupwetekedwa, kuzunzika, komanso kusowa tanthauzo.
Kodi mungasiye bwanji banja loipa?
Kusiya banja loipa kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Powonjezera pamavuto ambiri omwe amabwera ndikudalira kwamalingaliro mwamalingaliro, palinso zovuta zina zomwe zimalepheretsa kupatukana kofunikira.
M'mabanja omwe ali ndi poizoni, m'modzi kapena onse awiri amakonda kukhala opondereza kwambiri, makamaka mwamphamvu. Izi zimasokoneza malingaliro ake motero, mapulani a moyo wamtsogolo. Kuphatikiza apo, mnzake wogonjera (kapena onse awiri) nthawi zambiri amakhala osungika ndipo samathandizidwa kuchokera kunja.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuyamba kupanga makina anu othandizira. Tsegulani kwa anzanu ndi abale anu pazomwe zakhala zikuchitika m'moyo wanu. Mudzadabwa ndimphamvu zingati zomwe mudzalandire ndi gawo ili lokha.
Kenako, pezani mphamvu zanu, ndikuwongolera kuzinthu zomwe zili zathanzi kwa inu. Bwererani kuzinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita, kupeza zosangalatsa, kuwerenga, kuphunzira, dimba, chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani.
Komabe, kwa ambiri mwa iwo omwe akhalabe muukwati woipa, izi sizokwanira. Amakhazikika kwambiri munjira zaubwenzi wawo kotero amafunika kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri.
Chifukwa chake, musachite manyazi kufunafuna chithandizo kwa psychotherapist, chifukwa ichi ndiye chiyambi cha moyo wanu watsopano, wathanzi, ndipo muyenera kulandira chithandizo chonse chomwe mungapeze.