Zamkati
- Momwe kholo limakhudzira kusamvana mbanja
- Mikangano yowononga ya makolo ndi zomwe amachita ana
- Njira zabwino zokangana
Palibe ukwati womwe ungakhalepo popanda kukangana konse. Sikuti ndikwanzeru chabe kuyembekezera zoterezi, koma zitha kuwonedwa ngati ubale wopanda thanzi. Anthu awiri akagawana moyo wawo, pamakhala kusamvana. Ngati zipitilira kusathetsedwa ndikuponderezedwa chifukwa cha banja lopanda mikangano, sizingaphunzitse ana anu momwe angathetsere mikangano mosasinthasintha, komanso sizingakupatseni kukwaniritsidwa komwe mukufuna. Komabe, mukamenya nkhondo, itha kukhala mzere wowononga kapena wamkulu, wosinthana kwabwino.
Momwe kholo limakhudzira kusamvana mbanja
Kukangana sikupewa ukwati uliwonse, makamaka ngati pali ana. Kafukufuku wochuluka wasonyeza kuti kukhala ndi mwana kumathandiza kuti mikangano ya m'banja ikhale yochuluka komanso yovuta. Mwadzidzidzi, okwatirana amapezeka kuti ali pantchito zochuluka, maudindo, nkhawa, ndi zosintha zomwe palibe amene angakonzekere.
Inde, mumawerenga za izo ndikumva za izo, koma mpaka mutadzipeza nokha kukhala kholo kuti mumvetsetse kukula kwake. Mumakhala othandizana nawo paubereki, ndipo zambiri za moyo wanu wakale (ndi zachikondi) zimatuluka pazenera. Muli ndi nthawi yocheperana wina ndi mnzake, komanso mumalephera kupirira zolakwa za wina ndi mnzake.
Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, pomwe mumangofunika kuti mnzanu azikuthandizani kwambiri, ndipo mukamamenyera limodzi, mumatha kumangokhalira kumakangana.
Zomwe muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse ndikuti ili ndi gawo chabe. Mutha kuthana nazo ndikubwerera kukhala banja losangalala. Zitha kupitilira zaka, komabe, ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuyesetsa kuthana ndi vutoli.
Mikangano yowononga ya makolo ndi zomwe amachita ana
Pali njira yabwino yolakwika yolumikizirana. Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito pazokangana m'banja. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito kusagwirizana kuti muyandikire wina ndi mnzake ndikudzifotokozera pamene mukulemekeza mnzakeyo. Kapena mungathe, monga momwe mabanja ambiri amachitira, kulola kusamvana kulikonse kusanduke nkhondo yolimba.
Ndewu zowononga ndizovuta paokha muubwenzi wamtundu uliwonse. Koma, pali ana omwe amaziwonera, zimangokhala zoposa zomwe zimangowonjezera nkhawa kwa inu. Zimapweteketsa thanzi la ana anu. Zitha ngakhale kusiya mabala okhazikika m'malingaliro awo achichepere, zomwe zimatha kutenga upangiri wazaka zambiri kuti akwaniritse.
Kotero, kodi nkhondo yowononga ndi chiyani? Pali njira zingapo pakutsutsana komwe makolo amagwiritsa ntchito zomwe zidatsimikizika kuti zimawononga thanzi la ana. Ndikukalipa pakamwa (kunyoza, kuyimba mayina, kuwopseza kuti achoka), kupsa mtima, machenjera (osachita mwano) yankho lenileni).
Kugwiritsiridwa ntchito mobwerezabwereza kwa machitidwe ankhanzawa kwa ana ndikuwasokoneza ndi kuthekera kwawo kuthana nawo ndikuwapangitsa kuti azichita zovuta. Ana ena amakhala ndi nkhawa, amataya mtima, komanso amathedwa nzeru, mwinanso amakhala ndi matenda a maganizo. Ena amalongosola kusalinganika kwawo kwakunja ndikukhala aukali komanso owononga. Mulimonsemo, kuthekera kwamavuto azikhalidwe ndi maphunziro kumakulirakulira.
Kuphatikiza apo, monga machitidwe amawonetsera, nkhanizi zimapitilira kufikira munthu wamkulu. Ana omwe amachokera m'mabanja momwe munali ndewu zowononga zambiri amawoneka kuti amaphunzira mayendedwe abwinowa ndikuwasamutsa m'mayanjano awo achikulire. Mwachidule, mwana yemwe amachokera kubanja lotere amakhala ndi mwayi wokwatirana naye wosasangalala.
Njira zabwino zokangana
Simuyenera kuopa mkangano ngati kuti ndi woipa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Muyenera kuphunzira ndikuphunzira njira zabwino zosinthana malingaliro. Izi sizidzangoteteza ana anu ku nkhaŵa ya mkangano wosokonekera, koma kudzakhala kuphunzira. Kukangana kwanu sikungapangitse mwana wanu kukhala wofooka, kumupangitsa kukhala wolimba mtima!
Chifukwa chake, kukangana koyenera kumawoneka bwanji? Lamulo loyamba kukumbukira ndi - kukhala wachifundo, wokoma mtima, komanso wotsimikiza. Muli pagulu lomwelo (lomwe ndi losavuta kuiwala). Nthawi zonse lankhulani mwaulemu kwa mnzanu ngakhale ana atakhala kuti alibe chizolowezi cholankhulana mokoma mtima. Osamenya komanso musadziteteze.
Kumbukirani kuti mukuphunzitsa ana anu momwe angathetsere mikangano yawo. Iwo akuphunziranso zomwe zili bwino ndi zomwe sizili. Chifukwa chake, osachita chilichonse chomwe simungalangize ana anu kuti achite.
Ngati mukuwona kuti mungagwiritse ntchito akatswiri, owerengera mabanja kapena othandizira mabanja nthawi zonse amakhala ndalama zambiri nthawi ndi ndalama. Mwanjira imeneyi, banja lanu lonse lingasangalale ndi nthawi yolimbikitsana limodzi.